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Love Issue Can you help? Please!!!!?

My best friend married a man I've known for a few years. I knew him first, before her. They've been married for three years but now they have issues and we keep drifting to each other. We already kissed a few times and showered together (in swim wear after being in the pool not naked). We talk and share secrets like we did before the wedding and take naps together (no sex just cuddling, massages and kissing). They don't have kids so I'm wondering if it's okay for me to drop my guard and let him love me since we always loved eachother. Before he got married to my friend, he asked me to date him but I wasn't in a place in my life where I wanted romance but now I am and I really care about him. I've never cared about anyone like this....please advise. I don't want to hurt either of these good people but he's pursuing me.

Update:

Someone mentioned kids. there are no kids. I would never ruin a kid's life. No kids are involved in this.

Update 2:

Someone mentioned kids. there are no kids. I would never ruin a kid's life. No kids are involved in this.

Update 3:

There's really no need to hurl names at me. I'm here for advice not attacks. Thanks.

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  • 1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I trust you already know this is wrong and that's why you're asking for counsel. Put yourself in your friends shoes and search your conscience. You don't have to dig deep to know this is a betrayal of trust and immoral. Stop being seduced or seducing your friends husband. It's simple dearest.

    Source(s): 73year old mother of six, grandmother to eight.
  • 1 decade ago

    No way! You need to back out of this and stay away from a married man! I'm not going to call you names and I know kids aren't involved but WRONG is WRONG! How can you say your friends with someone and do all these things with their husband? That's kind of low and disgusting. Don't be like that. You need to strive to be a better person and ask yourself why you feel like your feelings are worth more than your married friend, who you claim is your best friend. That's just wrong and selfish and cruel and seedy and self serving. Love isn't about that so leave a married man alone and find someone who is single and preferably someone who might improve your character because you have some issues to work on. STEP AWAY from the married man. BE decent!

    Source(s): Dude with a brain
  • 1 decade ago

    So because your a slut with no morals it is ok to screw over your friend and destroy her marriage and her children's lives with your selfishness?

    Go ahead.

    This guy cheats on his wife and when he marries you he will treat YOU just like you are his "wife".

    If he really loved you back then he could have waited on you,but instead married a girl he did not love and made kids with her?

    How stupid and retarded does that sound to you?

    I don't give a crap if he IS pursuing you that does NOT give you the right to destroy the lives of his kids by causing a divorce between him and his wife.You will hurt ALL of them in the end.You NEED to end all contact with him, and tell him he is a dog for doing this to your friend and to his kids.You are not so great yourself for going along with it.How old are you 13?You're acting like a horny 13 yr old instead of a mature adult.JEEZ!

  • 1 decade ago

    With friends like you, who needs enemies? What's with all the cheaters on here today? This guy is MARRIED to your BEST FRIEND. If you are really meant to be together, he will eventually divorce her and pursue you. In the meantime, you are an intersting diversion and an ego boost for him. Stop the madness, avoid him like the plague and go find single men to date. GEEZE. It's not rocket science, people.

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    1 decade ago

    This is a married man,that means hands off period.How would you like being cheated on?It sucks trust me.His wife probably loves him regardless what he may be telling you.You would just be a piece on the side,go get your own man..

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You want permission to wreck their home? Not from me.

    It's still an affair. If she is your friend, you will stop this behavior immediately. You should also let your friend know what has concurred. You showered with him, take naps with him? Cuddle? Massages?

    Wow.. You've already betrayed your friend. It doesn't sound like he's pursuing you. Sounds like he's caught you.

    TRAMP!

    Home wrecker!!!

  • 1 decade ago

    This is your best friend??? Aren't you a prize. Back off right now. You can cut him off and you know it.

  • 1 decade ago

    Find your own man! Can't make it any more clear!

  • 1 decade ago

    If he really loved you he would have waited for you.

  • 1 decade ago

    Dont ask him to leave his wife ,just screw him when you want to!

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