on mar.31 my spouse beat me for the 3rd time, and I called the cops?

Get a restraining order at once and if possible go and stay elsewhere until it has been served. If possible somewher you can stay until after the court case. Change the locks on your doors as soon as possible. Buy additional locks and safety devices to secure your windows. Call your local phone company to ask for an unlisted phone number. This service may be free of charge. Create a safety plan with your children if you have them for times when you are not with them. Inform your children's school, day care, etc., about who has permission to pick up your children. Inform neighbors and landlord that your partner no longer lives with you and that they should call the police if they see him or her near your home.

Keep your protective order on you at all times. Call police if your partner breaks the protective order.

Keep a diary detailing any contact, threats, messages, or letters. Save phone message tapes.

Think of alternative ways to stay safe if the police do not respond right away. Give copies of your Protective Order and Proof of Service to everyone listed on the order along with family, friends, and neighbors who are willing to help you.

Decide whom at work you will inform of your situation. This should include office or building security. Provide a picture of your batterer if possible. Arrange to have someone screen your telephone calls if possible. Devise a safety plan for when you leave work. Have someone escort you to your car, bus, or train. Use a variety of routes to go home if possible. Think about what you would do if something happened while you were on your way home.

Continue to press charges and keep any evidence if you have it of any threats he has made or makes in the future. They will increase the bail if he has continued to make threats against you. You have a right to obtain a copy of any police report in which you are listed as the victim. The reports are available through the police agency that handled the case.

It is always a good idea to get a copy of any incident report documenting your batterer's abuse against you. These police reports can be used as evidence of abuse in other court proceedings, such as restraining order or custody hearings. Tell the Pretrial staff that you fear for your safety and want the batterer's bail increased. Once bail is set, you have the right to request a rehearing for bail setting to increase or revoke bail.

You did what you had to but it is important you continue to keep yourself as safe as possible.

Good for you! No more excuses for this abuser. Make sure that he is charged. Get the restraining order and tell the police about all his guns. Move on now and look after yourself. Good luck.

what's the question? get out of his life for good, i wouldn't have called the police after the THIRD time i would have left and never returned after the FIRST time.

Good for you for finally realizing you have a spine. Now. Get a restraining order and move on with your life.

i have had a friend in that situation and because of that i can kinda understand what your saying when you love sum1 its hard 2 get up and leave. but its also not worth it letting someone treat u tht way... anyways um what was the question???

Move out of the house somewhere safe, where he can never find you and never talk to him again, GO! GO NOW! HURRY BEFORE HE ENDS UP KILLING YOU THEN IT WILL BE 2 LATE

What's your question?

I don't feel bad for you because you are one of those girls who are stupid and stay with the abuser.

You're not being forced to. so whatever

Well you did the right thing.

why are you still with him?