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Why is it so hard to let go and move on?

Ok, so I was with this wonderful guy for like three years before he had to move to Canada with his family. His dad was in the canadian air force, making him a Canadian. I was 17 and he was 19 at the time. All our family and friends said we were like perfect together. Him moving tore me apart. We tried being together, but we both knew that his chances of being able to come back to the U.S. were slim, no matter his promises to me.

We decided to try and keep an open relationship, and try to see other people. It hurt me to even imagine him with another girl, but I wanted him to be happy. Needless to say, it didn't work out so well for either of us, and we ended up in a closed relationship again. Then he decided to join his air force and we had very limited contact when he was in basic training. When he got out we talked a lot and he made it seem like he still wanted me, and we could still somehow work out.

And then all of a suddenthere is this other girl that he says he loves, and that he wants her. Then he literally severs contact with me.

I have been in love with this guy for years, and its only been 6 months since he told me about her. Half the time I don't know if I should fly up there and fight for him or just leave him alone and be happy.

I truly do want him to be happy in life, and I am willing to let him go for that reason only. But I don' know what to do anymore, because I don't know how to deal with it anymore. I love him and everytime I try to face the p"demon" of it all it feels like I'm falling to pieces and all I wanna do its curl up into a ball all day. advice please? UI'm feeling really lost

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago
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    Everything that was wound into a relationship....now has to "unwind"...and that is what you are experiencing.

    It gets better....but the unwinding takes time...and is no fun.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    well its hard if you guys live in two different countries with limited contact due to him being in the air force it might not work as it is... if you throw a girl into the mix you have a disaster this is really hard because the heart doesn't want to let go. your emotionally attached and my best advice is become his best friend and if that's to hard of a pill to swallow distance yourself find someone else move on and become a friend instead. hope this helped.

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