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So I met this guy who was perfect, like everything I could ask for in a guy. Seriously.
We started a relationship and it was all good. Then he told me he needed to go on a trip up north (3000km away, he is a mechanic and was working at a national car racing event so I knew it was legit) and I knew he was telling the truth. He told me he was coming back, and I belived him. Few days later while north he sends me a msg saying 'sorry short notice never coming back'. I took that as a break up msg. So naturally I was really upset.

Week later he tells me he is back in town. And he calls me, tells me that he had been in a relationship for about 6months with another girl, and that I was just a bit on the side. This girl lives up north, he left her behind but only for the mean time. I told him that I felt used and all the rest, and he said he was sorry and didn't want to lose me as a friend.
Problem is even though he did all this to me, I still love him. This is like 2 weeks ago this all happened. I want to tell him, but I'm worried about the reaction. 
Its 5am and for the past 3 hours I've only been listening to one song and crying so hard cause the lyrics reflect everything to the letter at the moment, Not a day goes by - Lonestar.
Every word of that song is true. I want to tell him I still love him deeply and ask whether he meant all that he said to me or if it was just him telling me all I wanted to hear. I have more questions to ask too.

I'm thinking that no matter what I tell him, he'll maybe shrug it off and all the rest. But should I tell him, he told me we had too much in common but he didn't know everything about me so saying that doesn't work for me. I don't want it to be an oppurtunity lost, maybe hearing his reaction to that will finally get me over him. I don't know.

izkeshia · Accepted Answer

Forget worrying about his reaction. Get the information you need from him so that when you leave or stay you know you made a informed decision.

I.G. who · Answer

What I would say to my friends: Shake it off with a good up-beat cheery song! It will make the day!!! There is alot of fish in the sea. Dont worry ur prince, the one will come someday! Be patient!!! Remember the saying, we have to kiss alot of frogs before we meet the prince! Also, you have to learn a lesson from that! :)

I hope you cheer up! And the part of telling him!, I can't say whether to encourage you or not! I can only say, what does your heart say, what does your brain say? what does all your being shouts to say? Then say it... Well, u r the one to decide! But girl, what u r going through millions of people have gone through and are going through! U r not the last or the first. Sweetie, I don't know you, but i can assure you there is life and u can surpass this! Yes, it may be hard! But you can do it!!! 

I hope everything goes well! And this is my advice. It is your decision, ultimately.

magnum · Answer

Save your self respect, cuz he really has dealt you a blow of dis-respect, he's not given your talents the respect they deserve and his words prove him to be immature, because no bloke comes out with crap like that if they have any emotions for the girl he's saying it to, so keep your head held high and act as if it bothers you nil, and if you can tell him that you missed him to start with, but got over that quickly, would do you the world of good and will piss on his fire of immaturity and will make him realise that he didn't get one up on you , you got one up on him, I know your upset, but make sure he believes your not, for him to say these things, he just wants to upset you and then leave you to it with out a word, so realise your talents don't deserve a knob like this and that your so much better than him anyways, good luck,x

anug · Answer

i think hes just playing widh u nd ur emotions.
i know its difficult but u have to try..try to forget him not to think abt him
hes fooling u dear..plz move on

mysticshakra · Answer

Its not love, its infatuation and it will pass.move along, nothing to see.

? · Answer

Tell him then leave him alone!

Ice · Answer

you should tell him

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