I got dumped by a married man via text!?

I will jump in & say that my husband had an affair with a woman who sounded just like you. He dumped her over a text as well. What the heck did you expect, if you are a mistress you will be dumped like one? I don't care what he promised you or didn't, he made all those promises to his wife 1st!!!!

I had no idea about his affair & it was slap in the face when I found out from her. It was the most traumatic experience of my life, it took me months to even function or even wrap my mind around what happened. I lost weight, sleep & nearly lost my job to name a few...

We had a rocky marriage after our 2 kids but a snake like yourself defiantly took advantage of the vulnerable situation that he was in. The aftermath after the discovery was horrific. I cried & kept asking why for months. It was exhausting to him & I. It took many counseling visits for me to get over it.

The snake (other woman) kept sending me messages with details that no wife should know. She wanted to show me that she wasn't just a mistress but that they had a relationship & that he(my husband) was her BOYFRIEND. She was diagnosed with vulvar cancer, thyroid cancer & now breast cancer (ironic). She felt no remorse and at one point even told me I have no idea the relationship that I ruined. Please keep in mind she was married before & her husband left her for his affair partner. Why she would do this to another woman, I don't know. I can only say she was desperate.

My husband & I started going to counseling after that & believe it or not we now have a better marriage now than ever. The other woman was bitter, abusive to me via phone calls/emails/random FB messages...anyway to say the least Karma got her. Imagine being a delusional mistress, calling your affair a relationship & calling my husband her boyfriend. Having vulvar, thyroid & now breast cancer at 33 with 4 kids...now that is KARMA!!!!

My husband said she was a mistake, he regrets it & he will never be involved in anything like that again. I even asked him why would you talk to a girl that looks like her, he said I was not in it for her looks but she treated me nice...like every affair it was just an escape from reality. He admits to telling her stuff but mainly in response to her saying everything 1st. He thought she moved too quickly, she did not have patience & says that the Grass was not Greener on the other side, well according to her CANCERS it sounds like they was NO grass at all on the other side...

Honey you have gotten in this situation & I hope Karma does not bite you in the *** like it did this delusional mistress.

BTW- She was not cute, she looked about 40 & when i met her she looked very desperate. I still keep her in my prayers since she has 4 innocent kids but the easy slut did not feel bad at all!

I say leave him alone & yes inform the wife. Just know that when you do you may help them save their marriage like in my situation. I owe my improved marriage to the mistress. I am glad that she told me because as a result we rebuilt our marriage from scratch even though her intentions were to get me to leave him. my husband & I have a great marriage now & there she is all alone with her kids & health issues ALONE. I am sure she will have a hard time finding a man now, who the heck wants to date someone who would mess with a married man? think long and hard what you did. Will you admit that to the next man that you are dating. I had an affair with a married man, it will not look good on your part. Just being honest honey!

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I know how it feels to get caught up in something that goes against everything you believe in, leaving you questioning your own morals. Same as you I was pursued by seperated man for a long time before our 'relationship' started and it has turned into a terrible mess!!!! The only thing I can say is that maybe he has done you a favour because as your relationship gets lengthier you will only end up questioning whether it be you that walks away from all the hurt and how you do that=bringing awful pain for all involved! It is so sad that this cowardly man decided to do it by text, however maybe better not to have all your questions answered from him, it will help you to move on, just remember that you are worth so much more than all of this, I am trying to! Good luck with everything, don't get too down x

Do you have any idea what you have done. Just admit it, you were selfish and only cared about your needs. What about the wife and kids, did you ever factor that into you decision. I hope that this does not happen to you if you ever get married.

What is this was your husband and he did that to you and your kids. You seem young and naive but please put yourself in the wives and kids shoes. It would be devastating for them.

Where did you think you affair was going to lead to, surely not a happy ending.

If I were him I would not have even dumped you over text, I would have cut you without a word. YOU HAVE NO RIGHTS as a Mistress...maybe you should look up a definition of a mistress!

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I got dumped by a married man via text!?

I have been dating a married man for almost 2 years. We had a connection from the moment I got hired in his department. He was having problems in his 15 year marriage and against all my beliefs somehow I ended up falling for him. He assured me he was not that type of guy and I trusted him. Silly me...

What part of this really surprises you?

Here are the facts:

Face 1: He was married. Meaning, married. Not divorced. Not even in the process of getting a divorce.

Fact 2: He never made future plans to be with you. You were a fling who grew attached - like a parasite. Unfortunately for you, you had hopes that he would eventually be just yours. He never was.

Fact 3: You aren't deserved any answers. I'm sorry, but you're not going to get any answers. You were just a nice way to get sex and power without ruining his marriage directly. You're nothing more than a random annoyance at this point.

My advice? Move on. Don't get revenge, don't get even .... simply move on and learn never to get involved with a married man.

He got what he wanted from you, sex. Sorry to say this but he used you to feel good about his life. He used you to get laid and feel cool and worthy.

Now you seem like "yesterday's" news and he's found a NEW, yes a NEW mistress. He isn't trying to fix his marriage, ha, please read between the lines. He has found a new side dish and won't even try to juggle 3 ladies so he needs to cut ties with 1 of ya and you are the one he's deciding to cut ties with.

Listen, he isn't fixing his marriage. He uses other women to get "by" in life, to make his life exciting and fun.

You were used big time.

Don't mess with a married man unless you have zero feelings because only like 3% ever leave their spouse/kids.

I don't feel sorry for you.

I feel sorry for his family/wife.

Maybe you can learn something and stick with your sisterhood and realize how wrong you and he are!

Considering what he's willing to do to his wife (cheat on her with you), it shouldn't come as a surprise that he's willing to dump you via text. Obviously this man lacks the "you know whats" to be honest with his wife of 15 years and to be man enough to end it with you face-to-face. I know it sucks and I'm sure you felt it was "different" with you, but he is that spineless. Just be thankful he let you go because you deserve to be with someone who only wants to be with YOU and this joker clearly isn't the person. Whatever you do, don't tell his wife. The person you're going to hurt the most is her and that's not your place, just be thankful that loser isn't YOUR husband. Move on and best of luck to you.

And what sort of comment are you wanting? All across the world relationships are ending and starting every day. Yours is one of hundreds of thousands. Indeed "dumping by txt" is an impersonal way of doing it.

Unlike some other people, I maker no comment on the nature of your relationship. Across history some marriages have been successful, others not so. It is said that at least half of the Presidents of the USA have had "bits on the side".

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