Divorce, stay together? I don't know any more?

I think you have it wrong here.

You would not be taking your daughter from him. If you separate and divorce, he gets visitation. You are not moving to Pluto, you know ?

He has shown by his behavior that he is a bad role model. You will be removing her from direct contact (everyday interaction and contact) with his behavior, and the way he treats you (women) in general.

Try marriage counseling. See if that helps.

Make sure you have done everything you can to save your marriage. That way, when your baby grows up, you can truthfully say to her that you did everything you could to save the marriage.

Peace.

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It is NOT always in the best interest of the child to stay with a person of such bad influence and poor behavior and someone who hurts you (emotionally)! She will still get visitations with her father, so you're not taking her away from him. She's 5 months old, not old enough to understand what is going on right now and this is probably the best time to get a divorce and get everything arranged if that's what you plan on doing. You should never have to stay in a marriage that is making you constantly miserable, that is unfair to your happiness as well! If your daughter grows up seeing you always upset, it will only upset her! Like you said, he may be a good dad, but he's surely a bad partner and perhaps he'll change his ways for his own future if he loses you! You can find happiness again, so don't worry about that either, there are PLENTY of good fish in the sea that don't cheat, lie, and can hold steady jobs! There is only SO much any person can take and if you've tried everything in these 6 years, it may be time to finally throw in the towel and start a new chapter in your life. Whatever you decide to do I wish you good luck and remember to have a good support system of family and friends during this painful process, you'll be better in the end!

stop hiding behind your daughter. you are not fooling anyone. you are the one who is afraid,and can not bare the thought of leaving your husband or rather being alone. your daughter is not the most important thing in your husband's life, he is and he has proven that over and over again. you are setting a foundation for your daughter which gives her the ok to allow a man, her husband, to treat her the way your husband treats you. does that sound like someone who has placed a child as their number one priority. you and your husband have some big problems that your daughter does not deserve to deal with. you need to decide just how much respect you have for your self and decide what you want your life to be like. your husband cheats because he knows in the end you will do nothing about it. i am not saying divorced is the answer and i will not tell you to divorce him. i would say that you need to separate yourself from him and this situation, so that you can allow yourself to get into a healthy frame a mind to make decisions that are best for you and your daughter. then and only then can you focus on the relationship with your husband. that is if he acknowledges there is a problem. as far as being scared, this is a scary situation and you have to find the strength inside of you to make the right decisions; eventually what was fearful will become your strength. break your denial and rise above this situation. you can do better.

As long as there is not major issues, ie infidelity or abuse, then there is always room to work on things. You obviously don't wanna just walk away because you are still there even after being served. I do feel that people nowadays are far to quick to get divorced just because they may have lost their spark or things get boring or difficult. If you honestly still love each other, you might wanna try counseling. Getting to know each other as individuals again is important. Make time to do the things together that you once enjoyed or express interests in the others life and/or hobbies. This includes things not kid involved. You need to know each other as people again and see if things can work out and if you are both willing to make the effort to address the issues that led to divorce in the first place. Best of luck to you both.

i can promise you he is not inviting women to his hotel room for a hug.

he has affairs, we are all adults here stop kidding yourself. once he meets the woman he really wants she'll turn him away from that child pretty fast, especially if she gets pregnant.

i know you need advise but you two had 6 years to get your act together as a married couple, so why bring into that kind of life?

surely he dint start cheating over night.

you had years to travel, work out the kinks, grow together, etc.

and another thing; 5 months does not an amazing father make.

its easy to love and adore a tiny cute infant, come back after 17 years and tell us what kind of father he turned out to be,

i would say talk to a pastor, if he isn't willing to change his ways he'll probably be a daddy to another girls kid someday, then he'll be devoted to that new baby.

she will be alright if you raise her in a solid biblical church, and be committed, because i don't think he is in it for the long run, hope i'm wrong.

truthfully you make him confront his demons. only he can. i think you need a break.. the most important thing you can do for your baby is make a desicision berfore she becomes to old to understand. there is nothing wrong with him coming to see her. if HE wants to. your relationship isnt built on a baby. that baby will believe that its ok to do that to someone. you will end up messing up your baby forever if you stay.. she will live that same life because that is normal to her.. unhappy with a selfish man.. do u want that? love your baby first she cant defend herself ,thats your job.let him figure out his demons. your his wife not his parent. you can only make choices"healthy" for you and the baby. i have been there. im single with a kid. i love my life more now. my child is kind and smart and ground. he asks questions and i give him honest answers.. never lie to a kid. always be open. dump the husband. you and the baby well being is more important.

Seriously! my daughter this my daughter that. what? he is not thinking of her when he is committing adultery and whatever else demons he has.

the best thing you can do is go, your using your daughter to stay. do you want her growing up watching dad destroy her mother? that is exactly what he is going to do to you and for you to let your daughter watch this unfold in front of her is NOT going to be good for her.

divorce is a thing that happens everyday, the two of you will be much better off on your own.

there is visitation, he's not going to go without her.

I almost can say that it is too late to save your marriage. If you want to save it you have to do what it takes to save it. However, think about the future of your daughter and ask yourself if your husband's behavior acceptable in and for your daughter's future. This is only if he does not want to get help. We forget about these things.

Check out sites on sexual addiction and it's relationship to risk taking and also Narcissistic personality disorder. A hallmark of SA is continued risk taking even when it threatens relationships, work, etc.

Fortunately your child is only 5 months so whatever you do now will be normal for her as she grows older. I support you to remove the people from your life who are not there for you, who do not support and love you, who are not true to you, who have their own personal issues that they refuse to deal with and therefore are stuck and also delusional as to their abilities and consequences of their actions. You don't have to be stuck with him. It is your choice. You can try to work it out but sounds like you will be working at it alone.