Need good solid advice! Alcoholic husband own house, no mortgage, if I divorce I will loose so much, HELP ME !?

you are so silly. you are making his boring old problem YOUR problem. why do you care at all? clearly this is how he gets thru the day, getting bombed and freaking you out. i dont know what surgery he needs, but i do know that you need to have his life insurance paid up, and take more out on him.

watch every penny, join a club or group, enjoy your own life and take some trips with some friends.

you know perfectly well he is not your fault. he is his fault. it is your fault for letting your world get so small that the wailings of a drunk have any power over you at all besides distracted pity.

you are lucky you have a job. watch your money, enjoy your life and friends, if it does not make sense to divorce, then, live your life as a single lady with your friends while married.

disengage from his drunken rantings and just do your own thing. after 33 years unless you think if by divorcing you will meet another man who will be a better companion, i would have to agree, there is not a lot of upside to it. and financially being an older woman who doesnt have a lot of money is not a great place to be.

there are many women who divorce at your age and find the world they gave up is actually better in total than the new world they must now navigate. enjoy your life your church your children whatever and as for your husband, he chose drink over you. you have my permission to chose to enjoy life. your marriage doesnt have to be a 33 year babysitting job, only you have the power to make it different. stand up for yourself.

i have been with my husband for 32 years. trust me.

Dairies won't help, your GP can't help. He won't help. This is what I think, given your age.

He can't last much longer. Instead of fighting it, let him have all the alcohol he wants. Go and join Al-Non for support. Take a step back and just let him go at it. If he can't say 2 words, you are in no danger, physically. Stop rushing home- stop off for an ice cream. You are sucked in to his madness, just give yourself some space. If he says this is your fault, just say you will try harder to shut him up. Don't bother arguing, he is talking nonsense through an alcoholic haze. Bring him another bottle. He can't argue alone and he doesn't sound much of a danger to anyone but himself. You can create peace in your own home, by letting him have it his way. This is going to do one of twp things: he will finally poison himself with the booze and kick off. Or he will be totally shocked, having lost his arguing partner, into going in for help. Either way, you win. Just calmly wait him out. Stop focusing on him, I think he has pickled his brain by now. Focus on having the calmest home you can muster.

yes he would have to admit he has a problem.

Not sure what to tell you deal wth this for another 33 years so you can not lose so much plus yourself has already been lost so I don't see what is the big deal. You lost the most important thing ever.. YOU!

so now you think you haven't lost yourself so you keep wanting things like a house or what ever.

Your 50? wow.

If you want to keep all your material stuff, then stay in the marriage. If you get divorced, you will not have to put up with him, but you won't get to keep everything. Make a choice.

Sounds like you are only in it for materialistic things.

Either deal with it or get out. Your choice.

Divorce. You will get your fair share.