never been in a relationship and never had sex.... need some advice?

Every relationship is a little different. There is no set way to act.

Most people enjoy someone that they can talk to, laugh with, and have fun with. Those are the most important things to think about in any relationship. It never becomes boring if you enjoy who you are with. You have to be who you are for a person to like you and have some security to keep a relationship.

You ask what was normal and this depends on how serious the relationship becomes. At first you just really get to know each other and try to have some fun together and as time go by then you both may become more serious and maybe it can get to the point of being more serious then just kissing. You just go with the flow. You don't have to do anything really. Just be yourself and if they like you then it gets better. You may date a few before you find someone that is attracted to you too.

This is normal. I did not even like my husband when I first dated him and then I found out I was in love with him. So you see no one really knows what to do or how to act. Everyone just tries to be who they are and enjoy the person they are with and try to get to know each other better.

Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't

First off you need to respect your partner and be honest, but consider their feelings at the same time. Girls are very sensitive so think before you speak if they ask things like, "Is she prettier than me?" lol You need to be yourself at all times, if a girl has a problem with you and tries to change you she's not the one for you BELIEVE ME! Getting bored with your partner is a fact of life, even happy married couples get bored at some point so just try to do new exciting things. If nothing is working, once again she's not for you, keep on looking for someone else you can enjoy being with. If not anything else remember this THERE IS NO NORMAL RELATIONSHIP... period. All of them are different, some may be similar, but not exactly alike. Relationships are hard sometimes, but if you can make it through the hard times that shows you are mature enough to handle a serious relationship. The only way to discover what they are like is to try it out.

Whoa - normal? You might have been watching TV too much. There are no rules. It sounds like you haven't been 'in love' yet because you ask 'can u get bored', with a person whom you have a deep connection with. You're an elderly 20 year old (hip replacement time, yet?) so relax - there's plenty of time to find 'a real girlfriend'! Don't listen to all the teeny's who say "oh I had a gf/bf when I was 13" - take your time while they're struggling with STD's and emotional frailty.

It'll come. And you'll just know. The right girl will accommodate you because there will be love. 'What to do?' Be yourself (that way, you'll attract someone who likes you for who you really are and not a fake illusion), share passions and hobbies, be a good listener, be kind and truthful to her and yourself. And forget the notion of 'have to'.

First off, kudos to you for not having sex outside of a relationship. I know it doesn't seem like much, but hey, you've read YA before, you know the kind of idiotic things people do.

Anyway, act like yourself. You obviously don't want to say EVERYTHING that comes to mind, but you want someone to like you for you.

Normal relationships have phases. In the beginning, you hopefully act like yourself, but your best self. You have to let a little bit of 'crazy' out at a time, save the 'still healing wounds' for later on down the road. Later on, you get used to the person being there, sometimes taking advantage of the fact that they're always there. Then you hit that critical point, without even realizing most of the time, that you can't live without them.

What do you have to do? Treat them with respect. Be honest. Be grateful for the little things. Realize and discuss what your expectations are, as soon as possible. If it drives you nuts that she waits a few hours to text you back, you should let her know. Or if she makes dinner and expects you to clean it up, she should let you know. Resolve arguments and other issues right away. Don't let it fester.

How can you not get bored? It's not possible. Eventually you will get bored. Hopefully that boredom won't be the itching 'got to get away' boredom, but more of a comfortable boredom. The best thing to do is don't completely invest yourself into this person. Hang out with friends, visit family, do a solo or other group hobby. Don't get in a situation where all of your time is spent with that person. If you break up or need some time away from them, it will be easier.

Hey Max, I am also 20 but married. The best advice I can give you is that you need to be yourself and comfortable in your own skin before you can bring someone in your life. The best relationships are built on respect, honesty and love. You will get to enjoy if you partner respects you and you are able to trust her. When you start having sex you are at risk of grabbing diseases if you partner is irresponsible. But to tell you the truth sex is amazing and can build a strong bond between two love birds. And you can get hurt emotionally when the one you love is not faithful to you. Try to find someone who lines up with your beliefs, morals, values and ethics. This things can cause conflict in a relationship. Learn as much as you can about the person you want to call your girlfriend so as to know what she likes, her hobbies etc. Ladies like to be worshiped and pampered. They can be very moody and they are always complicated. Good luck, Have a nice sex life, use protection always.

Normal relationships.... hmm. -- there are "Just friends that have crushes on one another"

"Friends with benefits"

"Breaking up several times but always getting back together"

"When you are in 'love' with somebody and always have butterflies"

"Comfortable relationship"

"Too comfortable relationship and argue plenty" (parents sometimes)

"Cheating and not talking much at all but still being with each other"

All you have to do is spend time with that person you like. Be intimate and put your arm around her or hold her hand. Watch movies together that she really wants to see, and be close to her when she shakes. Try to make her laugh.

Sometimes when you don't make her laugh, she might get bored with you. She might get bored with you because she never feels 'butterflies' or gets happy when you are with her.

Ps, I am a teenager and I have never had a real boyfriend.

Watch the signs, and be open with who you are.

Advice is, people like people that are okay with themselves.

If you have never had sex, don't feel pressured to have it. Especially because you haven't really engaged yourself into any serious relationship. So just go with the flow, but when things get out of hand, don't have sex until you are comfortable, confident, and truly like/love that person you are with.

Giving your 'virginity' to somebody you don't know you will be with for a long time sucks. And if you wait until you are married... I know that kind of sucks too, but it will mean so much to that girl you marry.

Plus, it will open your relationship up more to trust.

And by the way, it is okay to be insecure about yourself. Just don't get frustrated if you don't get a girl. There are so many girls that would love a guy like you.

Well in a real relationship you and your partner should be very comfterable,and trusting.Try useing new moves and dont be afraid to show them what you got inside;]In the end you will know when you have found a good relationship.

its alright, some people are late bloomers & that is fine, too many people are in a rush anyway. I know a guy that just acted like he wasn't a virgin, we didn't even know that he still was one, he got tips on how to have oral sex, he listened to his boys & females all the time so when he finally got a GF she just thought he was experienced only later on did he tell her the truth (& by then she didnt care & she didnt mind) LOL

Be yourself and when you can do this with someone

without trying too hard you have a naturally happy relationship.

try to only see each other a little through your week that way

you'll have plenty to talk over and you'll have missed each other too.

normal relationship is of course when 2 person enjoy it. when both feel happy and satisfied. its also normal to have problems, but should be resolved. when that problem started to grow worse, then its no longer a normal relationship.