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:( I'm extremely confused.?

I have this friend who's a girl, (I'm a girl too, btw) & we've been best friends for almost 2 years.

She's straight,

& everytime she has a boyfriend,

she always wants to hold hands with me, hug me, snuggle up to me,

anything along those lines,

she even almost kissed me once;

but she's nothing like that with me when she doesn't have a boyfriend?

I've always thought I had feelings for her because I get butterflies when she hugs me or holds my hand,

or even gets the slightest bit close to me.

I love that.

Everytime I'm around her, I wana kiss her, but I'm afraid to because she's straight,

she doesn't know I'm bisexual, & Idk how she'd react if I did or if I were to come out to her..

I'm scared to even talk to her about any of this..

I don't know what to do..

I hope someone can help me.

I hate having to hide my feelings from her.

Sorry if I didn't explain any of this clearly or if it didn't make sense :/

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    Awuh, if she's going out with a guy but 'flirts' around with you she might even be bisexual too? It would help if you came out and told her about your sexuality, if she really is your friend she'll be understanding. The heart wants what the heart wants♥(:

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Lol, you made perfect sense. Okay im gay so i know whats going on. I think that if she has almost kissed you, she is maybe bisexual too. When I came out there were good reactions, and people that wanted to throw bricks at me and pound me with a sledgehammer (not literally dont get scared). So, just like in my story, she might have a good or bad reaction. But i think shes gonna have a good reaction. Look at the facts.

    1. She has almost kissed u, right?

    2.She did all these things couples do together, including gay and lesbian ones.

    Okay, getting to the point, here's what I would do: Since she almost kissed u, she's obviously noy gonna have anything against bisexuals or lesbians. If she's bisexual, she will tell you that she is, after you tell her YOU are. Even if u have to wait. Like i did for 3 months for my friend. He knew i was gay, but it still took him 4 months to tell me he was bisexual.

    So a good 3-step plan is:

    1.Tell her you're bisexual

    2. Be patient, she may take a while to tell you she is IF she is

    3. If she is, go for it and tell her you like her. You cant win if you dont play the game ;D

    ---Good luck :D

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well, she's straight so apparently you can't do anything with her. If you do, you must let her initiate it. That would only freak her out of you initiated something first. On the other hand, she's being more touchy with you. So she probably won't freak out if anything happened. Maybe she is just bisexual too and she thinks she can't tell you. So when she has a boyfriend, it's like she thinks "oh, she thinks I'm straight, I can act more touchy with her and she won't think twice".

    I'd say just tell her you might have feelings for her or something. Or next time she gets touchy just ask her about it. If anything you guys just need to talk. It'll all pan out in the future :)

  • Anonymous
    5 years ago

    i think of it merely extremely relies upon on the placement. i does not call as quickly as a week or so over doing it. So if he is going out each and every saturday night, case in point, then as long as he's not entering into concern, performing like an entire fool, and so on... he's a grown grownup and has that ideal. 3-4 circumstances a week, entering into concern, and so on... this is the place i might have issues. i became in no way into going to events till the final 6 months or so. in the previous, I in no way went out. Now i pass out eating as quickly as a week (not HAMMERED inebriated, 2-3 beverages max). The hateful approach, and so on... that could deliver approximately bother. He needs to appreciate you by way of fact the different 0.5 of the dating. beginning fights with you, and so on... feels like he's merely attempting to discover a reason out. this is like a job, that somewhat of merely firing an worker, cuts their hours all the way down to truly much not something to rigidity the worker to go away.

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  • 1 decade ago

    It isn't weird at all. I think, since you guys are close, you guys should get into deep conversation and kind of bring up being bisexual. Maybe somehow hint it, or just tell her flat out. Also depending on your personalities, when I'm around my friends they usually just kinda say "wanna make out?" You should do that, and pretend it's a joke and if she rejects just laugh and be like, "Fine!"

  • Bella
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    I'll let you know when I find an answer. I'm going through the same thing, except she's like that all the time and has never had a boyfriend. And I a lesbian. And she knows. But she doesn't know I love her. I'm rambling sorry.

  • 1 decade ago

    aww hun ur so soft btw ,, okey just give hints like,, comment about an actress or models body,

    n see what will be her reaction how she ll talk about it,,

    i dunno how old r u, but if ur big enough to have sex just talk about sexual relations,

    and actually u could talk about lesbians or their porn movies,

    u could show her a pic n pretend u got it on email, n choose a cool 1..

    if shes not u have to befine cuz thats what friends for to accept each other no matter what

    p.s. if u still lil , just be sure n try alot maybe ur not lesbian

    good luck darling

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    she might have feelings for you, maybe she's scared if she does that when she doesnt have a bf she would go to far and she feels safe doing it when she has a bf cuz she knows you wouldnt do anything. you've never gonna know unless you talk about it but it's hard to do you have to do it when ur ready

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    You might need to ask her why she's always, what it appears to be flirting. Then ask her if she is okay with bisexuals, then tell her that you are bi and all of that flirting is actually making you obtain feelings for her.

    Source(s): Moi
  • 1 decade ago

    You really need to get over the obsession with labels. You like your friend and you enjoy being with her and enjoying the interaction with her. It is not illegal and does not do any harm so enjoy.

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