how do i make myself stand out against guys in frats?

You don't... Sorority sisters only date frat guys... Most frats have a related sorority and vise versa... Girls from that sorority are referred to as "Little sisters". And frat guys are generally encouraged to only date their "little sisters".

If you want a little sister, you must be a fratboy... They won't look at you otherwise...

Sorry hun, but Polly is wrong. I'm in one of the most prestigious sororities on my campus & I am not dating a guy in a frat. My boyfriend & I started dating about a year after I pledged & I actually turned down a frat guy for him. We've been together for about 2 1/2 years now & plan to get married next summer. What really set him apart for me was that he was a genuine, down to earth guy who cared about more than going out and partying all the time. Even from the beginning he could always make me laugh & he completely understood/shared my strange sense of humor. He also had an overwhelming amount of confidence when he asked me out, even though he knew I had been talking to another boy in my sorority's brother frat, which also made him stand out a lot. So basically, be yourself and be confident, that always works best. and if you get turned down by a girl, don't get discouraged, she obviously wasn't the right one for you and will realize her mistake later =-)