Will guys change after they're married?

Both of you will change after you get married, you get comfortable. Most of the time the guy starts expecting more of the wifely things of the woman (sorry, its almost ingrained and not a conscious thing) and women start bartering with sex to get guys to do something they want them to do. I can't say he will be come a drunk or even that you will end up getting a divorce. As long are you two are open and honest with each other things will turn out fine. Just be affectionate, communicate and don't take the other one for granted. Normally you don't get too comfortable until 1-2yrs into the marriage, but it will be a slow transition that you won't notice until your far away from where you are now. So, Short answer is you both will change.

I suggest both of you read a book, it is an amazing help in marriage and I think everyone that is engaged should read it before they get married. It's called The 5 Love Languages, By Dr. Gary Chapman. It will help you both better understand how to show each other how you feel so neither of you feel unappreciated or unloved in the marriage. Its a conscious effort at first, but it becomes second nature after a short time

Well, yes and no.....

How long have you been dating? usually people have a "best side forward" time after starting to date when they are on their best behavior around the other person. This usually lasts six months to a year... so it's best to see a person at least a year so that you KNOW all their little flaws and annoying habits before getting engaged.

After THAT, they will not change. But if you marry them before a year, it may feel like they changed because you got married. But really it's just the six month hump.

Um...drinking problems can always worsen, though, so that is kinda scary. Why don't you talk to him about your fears and his personality changes when he drinks. If you feel like you can't talk to him about this...you probably don't know him well enough to marry him yet....

Obviously, when you've been with someone for a while, you both change to a degree but more to the point, it's growing and you need to do that together. If drinking is an issue you are worried about now, then you need to talk to him about it. If you are concerned about him changing, then you should discuss that too. It is normal to have concerns about such issues and the best place to address such concerns is through pre-marriage counselling. Through pre-marriage counselling, you are both able to gauge an understanding of each other's expectations, roles, values and so forth.

The key to a successful marriage is communication, honesty, trust and respect.

Yes, he will change especially after he gets older and gets tired of making love to you and then seeks out another woman and has a love affair.

Let me tell you something you don't know. When you get married your gonna a face a valley of death filled with horror, negligence, foul, law breaking, unfaithfulness and the list goes on. How many people do you know can handle all those obstacles and remain married are the ones to success.

I made it through the valley of death and my wife and I are still married. It has been hell and we are now just getting to know each other more and more after 26 years of marriage. We survived.

Good Luck

Most people change somewhat after they're married. Life becomes more busy and comfort starts to overrule trying to impress each other. As for actual big personality changes I don't think that's common. Just remember communication is so important and make sure you both make a good effort to make each other happy and everything should be okay.

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Life is a type of evolution and it is typical that both partners will change after marriage. You won't have the same likes and dislikes in 15 year and neither will your would-be husband...and you should accept that fact now.

Your boy friend's drinking is another issue. Might be able to help if you tell us what he does that offends you.

Yes. They change.

According to their mum's, they change for the worse.

Many men simply don''t adjust Weil to the new situation that marriage creates. They don't like the sense of confinement they feel. A woman also changes so two people who thought they knew each other have to start getting to know each other all over again.

change no .. stop pretending to be some one there not .. YES.. people will often play a role to get what they want then after they get it .. they don't longer pretend any longer . men and women both do there share of pretending in a relationship .. then after there married .. it like ok.. and they start coasting. then they get board with it and there is where the cheating comes in.. It the thrill of the chase .. or being chased ..