What is the #1 reason you should marry someone you can love not someone you are in love with?

the number one reason is that because you are inclined to put the person you are in love with on a pedestal and you will be in for a disappointment when you find out he has faults which being blindly in love you did not see. ;-)

How would you know if there is someone you can love? Would you first see them as someone you admire or respect? Perhaps as a friend without any sexual attraction? Possibly because you feel obliged because of circumstances? Surely only sometime after the marriage would you know if you were right in your assumption that you could find true love.

On the other hand, what is it to be in love? Is it simply a mutual attraction of minds? Sexual desire? Unexplainable infatuation? A combination of all these and more? Whatever it is, it seems to be instinctive, and perhaps a better guide to lifelong mutual deep affection. Yet marriage as we all know, more often than not doesn't last. Falling in love is not always a recipe for a successful marriage.

I would say the necessary requirements for a successful marriage are love, lust, luck and mutual respect, of which luck and respect are the most important, since love so often grows, and lust usually fades over the years.

Non of us are experts....and all of us are

Things like love don't have rules and agenda ....they just happen

So your going to spend everyday trying to convince yourself that you love this person?

You should....you just don't?....If you just keep telling yourself.........

What's next buying a bride From Thailand.........."OH but she's perfect for me"

Stipulations and conditions on love.....Sorry doesn't work that way

You don't find love it finds you....

It is not a commodity you can buy sell and trade

Sex and attraction are.....but that isn't the love we are talking about here

You marry someone you can love because you can grow and learn from each other. You'll never find someone you are in love with; No-one and I mean no-one will ever find that special twin flame here on earth. No-one's perfect when it comes to love; So therefore there will be flaws. You love someone by accepting them as they are and you learn and live from that.

They're a good person, so give them a chance. Plus there's always a way out.

You didn't tell the the answer the last time, so I'll just say: "Room for improvement?"

theyre in love with you

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