What's are the scarifies of a army wife who husband wants to go special forces or ranger?

You just have to be prepared to do it all yourself. I personally get resentful when my husband leaves and I am left to take care of everything by myself. I know he is going through a lot of stuff, but so am I dammit. Very few actually make it in that side of the military it has a HUGE washout rate and they can peer you out so if he really is cocky he might not make it. Let him try.

Ok you can know what to expect but that doesn't make dealing with repeat deployments any easier. Its ok to be selfish because that is kind of what your husband is doing. If its not something you feel like you can handle then dont "just suck it up". When your spouse does something like that it is something that seriously affects both of you so you have the right to say no this isnt what I want out of our marriage and if he loves you he will respect the way you feel. Successful marriages are all about compromise, not one spouse picking up the slack all the time so the other can go feed their ego. Its a partnership.

I'm at somewhat of a loss, since all the SF buddies I have are single. The life is not conducive to martial bliss. The people who become SF aren't exactly the settle-down kind of people either. I don't see why you, as a spouse, should be bothering yourself with talking to the SF recruiter at this stage when he hasn't even gone to Selection yet. Wait til he passes SFAS (he may get injured or bolo out in some other way, rendering the issue meaningless). You still have lots of time to discuss the future. Until he passes SFAS and has a Q-Course date, nothing is set in stone. Once those two events happen, only then should you seriously start preparing. And instead of asking through Yahoo! Answers, call up the Group's Staff Duty Desk. Have you husband look through the installation phone book (if I knew which post you were on, I'd find it for you myself). Locate and talk to an FRG representative. You'll not only get answers to every conceivable question you could have, but you will have a far greater grasp of what it's like to be an SF spouse from that sort of personal communication, than from complete strangers here who could easily be feeding you garbage. Good luck to you and your husband.

maybe you shouldn't rush on starting the family since you two are still working on becoming more stable and building trust. being in the regular army or being in special ops isn't going to change the fact that you guys need to work on your marriage. he is still going to have to be away, and still going to have to do his job. let him try to become a Ranger or Special Forces, it's going to be one of the most difficult things he will ever do. my husband hasn't deployed yet, but some of the other wives like the shorter deployments of the rangers. they like that they don't have to be without their husband for a whole year at a time. but it also sucks to have to say bye to them more often, and then the joy of them coming home more often. its a roller coaster of emotions. he will be better trained in the Rangers/SF. right now they are deploying for 3-6 months at a time. tell him not to let his ********* show too much lol. good luck.

i agree. army wives know what to expect when they said i do to a american soldier. the 12months deployments are long enough. SF, RANGERS, do rapid deployments yes but they are way shorter the the average deployments. let ya husband do his best. he has hassions thas a plus. at least you knwknowa s he is not a bum. as for yay'allroblems thas life. does it matter if yal have problems now or later. they still is going to be there wheater hes SF or not. fo example. lets say he waits and yal over come yall' current problems, then when everything is good for a moment guss what , NEW PROBLEMS COME UP. its a never ending cycle. then what y'all gonna do then. are you gonna keep delay his career every time a problem comes up.? you both have to sit down and think bout it

Special Forces, Rangers, SEALS are better off single because of the nature of their missions!

If you weren't willing to be alone why did you marry a solider?Don't complain about him being gone when you KNEW it would happen.You suck it up and deal with it just like every military wife.Since you have trust issues it sounds like you'll be divorced soon since he will be gone ALL the time if he joins SF or rangers.You WILL be alone alot.If you can't handle it then you will be divorced.It's that simple.

Every army wife has to make scarifies.

sacrifices!

Let him try is the best advice - it might burst his ego lol