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purpleshamrock
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purpleshamrock asked in HealthDiseases & ConditionsOther - Diseases · 1 decade ago

I'm paraplegic (paralyzed from chest down) and want to start dating again...?

...but I'm not exactly sure how. I don't really want to stick to just doing the online dating thing, but I feel like a wheelchair scares guys off, like they think I'm gonna be some sort of burden to them or cramp their style.

Truth is, I'm 100% independent; I don't need ANY help, I work, I drive. My wheelchair is manual, I just take it apart (within like, 30 seconds), toss it in my back seat and go wherever the hell I want to. My being paralyzed really isn't a big deal to me, but I think it makes people pretty uncomfortable sometimes. I go to the gym, I play hockey... I live the same as I always have, just sitting down - but I feel like guys are pretty shallow about stuff like this (and I don't know if I would have been before I got hurt, too)...

So my question is, does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? Any tips or thoughts on the subject? Am I damaged goods, or dateable?

Update:

...but I'm not exactly sure how. I don't want to stick to just doing the online dating thing, but I think a wheelchair scares guys off, like they think I'm gonna be some sort of burden. I want to be able to get it across to them that yea, it's different but it's also not. I wanna show that Im not a burden but dont want it to seem like its a bg deal to me.

I'm 100% independent; I don't need ANY help, I work, I drive. My wheelchair is manual, I just take it apart (within like, 30 seconds), toss it in my back seat and go wherever the hell I want to. My being paralyzed really isn't a big deal to me, but I think it makes people pretty uncomfortable sometimes. I go to the gym, I hang at the beach, I play hockey... I live the same as I always have, just sitting down - but I feel like guys are pretty shallow about stuff like this (and I don't know if I would've been before I got hurt, too). Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? Any tips? Am I damaged goods, or dateable?

Update 2:

Just adding this: I'm not looking to be cured, I don't feel bad about myself really, I'm just new at the whole disability thing and don't know how to start without making myself and everyone else uncomfortable. I'm 28, working full-time and going to school part-time.

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  • tj
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
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    You are totally dateable girl, go for it!

    You do sound like you have a bit of a chip on your shoulder though, you might want to soften up a wee bit, and at least come across as female.

    Not all guys are shallow. Go out with the girls, and meet up with some guys. And have some fun conversations. And loosen up.

    Then challenge them to a game of sledge hockey and whoop A***

  • NicA mericana
    1 decade ago

    Nobody with a disability like yours is damaged goods, hun. I give you a tonnn of credit that you do what you do with your condition =] Keep doing what you're doing, you will succeed. Join clubs at school and try to get more socially active in something that involves meeting new people.

    I did a lot of research on stem cell research (personally and a project for school) and there's already treatment for parapyligics using skin and umbilacal cord stem cells on the open market already in many parts of the world. Keep that in mind too for the future.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    what ever... you are not damaged goods, you are just the same as any one else out there, besides if a guy can't handle you in a chair, then what makes you think he is worth it at all?

    my point is, don't set the tsandards of "oh some one might be wanting to put up with me" set the standards for you saying"is this guy worth my time?"

  • ?
    1 decade ago

    Hi, friend you said that you are 100 percent independent then why are you depending upon the circumstances.

    You are very clear about yourself and make clear to others also that who actually you are.

    Of course you are date able and also you can make good friends there. Try it

    You can also try http://www.isisandosiris.com.au/

    this a genuine and free online dating website.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    I agree with everyone else. I'm sure you will find a great person :]

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