Am I wrong, dumb for being in this relationship?? I need advice please.?

trust me your not the rebound guy trust me i have 2 girls for 2 different guys and i didn't have a relationship with either and both are dead beat. you need to tell her how you feel and see how she reacts and what she says to reassure you that he means nothing and i can promise you she appreciates you and respects you so much for loving her and her daughters more than the jackass sperm doner and i know that for a fact also there is no woman that would leave a man that has enough love to father and raise her kids like their his because every time she sees the ex she will remember how much of a piece of **** he is and want to spit in his face its a difference when a woman allows a man to come in and out of her life but when a child is in the picture its our job to protect them from ever feeling of hurt that we do

With the Kid part, I can see where your coming from. My sister has a two year old child and the father wan'ts NOTHING to do with her. Untill he saw her this year wich made my sister ticked.

Now about a stuation about the fauther is something big. If the father decieds to come around and see his kids. One thing means he wan'ts to adopt them for money. He doest care about them at all And if the mother/girlfriend all females have feelings with there past love life.No matter how much the women denys it. And tell her how you feel.. You'd be shocked if the women is willing to stay with you. I read in a magazine that a abuseve relationship is not good or helty. The only thing that can help that is tell her that you feel un-easy and you don'nt like the fact that shes meeting up with him for the money. You could always go with her and stay in the car..(Just in case some thing bad happens) and its tough on a single mom with two kids to find a guy. or even date. I don't think your a re bound guy. Some times if you love a person more then you know, you can feel your partners feelings are... Talk to her man.

I don't think you are the rebound guy at all. The time that passed between "baby daddy" and her was too great for her to just be looking for a pick-me-up which is what a rebound is-someone to make you feel better. I think the worries are there because you are allowing them to be. Relax. Take it slow. Integrate your lives and see what happens. She has done it on her own so far so I don't think she necessarily needs a man in her life and you didn't mention anything about supporting her in any way. Go for it and trust her. I highly doubt she will ever go back to him. If you create doubts and fears, you allow the relationship to become weak. Be strong!

You're are not stupid for being in a relationship with a woman with kids, however, i think it's a little stupid that you are in it with HER. First of all, it's a little skank-ish to sleep with someone, then go sleep with another person. (no offense to you) But you need to keep an eye on her, because based on what you told me, she sounds like she has low self esteem, and the ex might try to convince her to come back. (i wouldn't be surprised if she went back, since she slept with him after he treated her like crap) I'm not saying to end it, I'm just saying you shouldn't get too attached. If you do get attached to her and her kids, then it'll be that much harder to end it if she does happen to cheat. You should just forget the father of the kids, but not to the point where you get jealous if she mentions him. p.s. try to keep your relationship with her non-sexual, because if you do someday leave, she might feel like you owe her something. good luck =) sorry if i was too honest/harsh

I strongly recommend that you get out of that relationship. You are single and deserve a woman who will have kids that our yours, that you don't have to worry about another guy's, you deserve better though its mean to say. Ask yourself what happens if you were to marry this woman? You would have to support the kids that aren't even your own. I suggest that you find someone else though it's a hard pill to swallow. There are many other women out there and one that's single, you'll have a lifetime to experience "firsts" with. Like kids for example. Don't put yourself in the wrong situation....I hope this helps and good luck :) P.S. There is someone out there for you with a better scenario, don't be pulled down.

I think that both of you are in the wrong. He handled the situation badly. He should realize that not everyone wants to have sex all the time. That being said: you shouldn't have led him on into thinking he was going to have sex with you. In the future when a situation like that comes up you should pleasure him so he gets satisfaction but under the pretense that he cuddles with you afterwards, that way you both are sacrificing but you both are also getting what you want in the situation

OK to start off, the fact that she cheated on you once and got pregnant is enough to tell me she can do it again. Sorry but trust is not something easy to regain. History repeats itself and yes very likely that if she meets him again, she'll sleep with again.

You need to move and not have to be with someone who cheated with you before...being with them is like accepting that behavior and no matter what is said, remember actions speak louder than words and it's time for some reality check and carry on your life without having to care for her kids.

Why do we like to suffer? Why we always choose the wrong person even thoug we know its not right? We like the pain... why we love the bad guys and reject the sweet boy? i thought it was a girls thing but i guess men suffer it too. You'll realize with the time.. or you will keep doing it unconscious..

i say if you really care about her then be the father of those kids they need a dad whos going to be there for them, and not the loser she was with before.

damn wow. Youre the rebound guy