i honestly don't know if i should break up with him.. please help. (10pts)?

I just recently stopped dating a boy that I had been dating for two years.

He was shy, but really sweet and caring. He wasn't the best looking guy (if you compared him to, let's say, Johnny Depp or whatever teenage heartthrob it is right now), but he was mine. And I loved him, and I still love him, very very much.

The first couple days after the break-up, I was talking to my friend on the phone. I was devastated because I thought, like you, that he was the best I ever had and I won't find anyone better.

My friend said the following:

"Right now, you still love him, correct? If I were to ask you to rate your relationship with him on a scale of 1 to 10, what would you rate it? A 10, correct? Well, what if I told you, on the grand scale of things, that the relationship with him was a 6? Or a 4? What if, and it may not happen right away, someone will come along and you would rate them a 10? Never regret going with him - he loved you and you loved him, and that is nothing to be ashamed of. But don't shelter yourself to new people. You never know when someone is falling for you."

Here are some guidelines you can consider when taking into account to end a relationship:

Does the relationship allow you to evolve according to your wishes?

Does the relationship fulfill your needs?

Is it possible to have goals together and achieve them?

Does your partner accept you as you are?

Can you resolve conflicts together?

Are you feeling good in your relationship?

Is the communication with your partner good?

If your answer to these question is in the majority “no” then it is probably time to move on.

So, you want to break up with your girlfriend/boyfriend and you don’t know how to do this? You’ve never done it before or wrong in the past and you could use a helping hand?

The first thing you have to realize is that there is no painless way.

It simply doesn’t exist. No magical words which take the pain away. It will hurt them and it may also hurt you. There is nothing you can do about this. You can only avoid some common mistakes and make it a little easier for them.

You seem to be a smart girl. You also seem to be confused. If you are not sure the best way is to take a break to see how thing will go. You are only 14 and have the whole life in fron of you.

Awww sweetie, you sound really distressed with this. I'm sorry :( I think you should try seeing him, even if you're busy just make time for him. Maybe you guys could go to a fancy restaurant or to an amusement park for the day or something to spice up the relationship. It doesn't sound like your feelings are fading really, just that you may be a little bored right now. Especially if you two haven't seen eachother for awhile. I understand the fresh start thing, but trust me when I say nothing special happens in the beginning of your first yr lmao. Plus you'll probably want a sure date for homecoming :). I get the whole looks thing, but if I look at a couple where the girl is much prettier, I say "wow that guy is really lucky. Kinda inspires me that I can get a really hott guy lmao" People will not judge you at all for your boyfriend's looks, and if they do, you shouldn't want to waste your time on them. I'd say you keep him until your relationship ends itself or you absolutely need to be free. Otherwise you won't gain much by dumping him. Good luck with everything though! :)

Maybe it would be a good idea to talk to him and tell him how you feel... have you ever thought that he maybe waiting for you to text him? i think maybe you should have a break from your relationship and see how it goes from there.. if its meant to be it will be! you shouldn't worry about being lonely for the rest of your life as it has just only begun your only 14. no offence but this is something which shouldn't be on your mind.. your 14 you have your whole life ahead of you to date... you should enjoy your teenage years while they last because you will miss out on the good stuff.. so have fun and dont feel you have to have a boyfriend... remember boyfriends usually last a few months but friends are forever.

Talk to him about your relationship and if he feels awkward talking about it break up with him and start fresh plus high school is a bigger environment so its easy to start liking someone else