Stay w/ my bf or go with the cute flirt?

Firstly, ignore some of the rude and judgemental comments left there.

With topics like this there aren't any "answers".. just suggestions, that hopefully will help you find your own answer.

I don't think the real issue here is your military friend, this is just something that has tipped you into looking at what you want/need from your current bf. I don't think this needs much analysis.. it sounds like he seems to you like a faithful, loyal labrador, who doesn't excite you anymore. If the lack of excitement is important to you right now, you need to let the bf go, whatever. If you care about him don't play him along. Yes you will hurt him, but the sooner the better.

If you think there IS a future with BF, then you need to think about what you think is going wrong, tell him (as nicely as possible), and give him at least the chance to change. He thinks everything is OK. But if you truly think he's going to be "too boring" for you, cut loose now, as an act of kindness to HIM.

With regards to your old buddy, remember everything that glitters is not gold. This would be a long-distance/part-time relationship. Is that what you want?

In any event, don't use the military guy as the "reason" to dump your bf. Take some time to think long and hard about what YOU really want, WHY you want it, the consequences, and please, whatever decision you come to, be considerate of the current BF.

Take care.

I'd say to talk to your boyfriend about how you feel in that relationship. Tell him you don't feel a spark any more, but don't mention the other guy. You need to really try and sort out your current relationship, if you work at it and still you feel no spark, then call it a day. But, you need to bear in mind that the 'cute flirt' you are on about, only comes back every other month for a weekend. That's not a lot of time for the relationship. He has 3 days in 2 months effectively, to come home and catch up with everyone he cares about, not just you. So please don't forget that it is effectively a long distance relationship which can be tricky to succeed with; you need to have a lot of trust between you. Also, you never know if he really wants a relationship or just sex. So please try to make your existing relationship work first.

There is an old saying "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush". Are you willing to give up your boyfriend in order to have what will be a long-distance romance? Will it be worth it when you are sitting at home most weekends while the other guy is away at school? If you really think so, then go with him. Also consider the fact that you have no idea if you are the only girl he is e-mailing and flirting with. If you truly feel no spark with your boyfriend anymore, then break up with him for that reason. Don't do it just because of flirtatious e-mails or texts and a relationship that will be difficult to sustain.

ofcourse you should stay with your bf and never think like that again.. that is selfish! your bf loves you and he cares for you. but the other guy is not even there and if you go with him, you will only be able to see him in the weekend of every month!! this is crazy!! and if you can wait for a month.. he wont, he will find someone else as soon as he gets the chance.

See here is your problem. Stop thinking with your s*x drive and think logically. That army guy is looking for an easy f*ck once every 2 months for 3 nights, then gets to leave. I promise you after he nails you, he will write less... and less... and less... You're his booty call and you're falling for it. No one misses someone they've talked to for like 2 days and then leave for 2 months. Sorry, don't buy it.

And keeping this from your bf because he's jealous is very mature. I pray he is keeping a secret lust for a girl from you, see how you like it. Grow the f*ck up

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You should stay with your bf. What you are doing is called "cheating". More or less.