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? asked in Society & CultureHolidaysRamadan · 1 decade ago

AOA muslims I feel bad but I cannot cry?

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Please read. Today I got into arguement with my Mom about the fact that she says " I never do anything around the house". Which is false. I said she always says this excuse. Then she pointed out that she says this only when I argue.

This kept extending but reverted back to the initial point we were discussing so then I said "The way you are raising my youngest brother by giving him false consequences (such as "" I will call police if you don't do this or I will get rid of your toys if you do this" [which never happens]) is wrong. So don't raise him up like that. Then she said I know how to raise so then I got frustrated so some how we got back to our other arguement about how she says I never do the things comlete or I never help around the house.

My problem is that I don't do brooming according to the way she does, I use start from opposite end etc etc and when washing dishes I leave spoons for someone younger brother to do it because I get fed up. But my problem with my mom is she says I NEVER do anything around.

So anyways it extended, and she got really upset and said fine don't do anything around the house. Because I think we argued to much and I was being a douchebag.

Now I feel really sad, but I cannot cry. So I started praying my zuhr prayer and will inshallah do my asr. I made a deal that I would not stop making dua until I cried but I cannot cry. And I feel heartless, I don't know what to do. I read surah yaseen, but now I don't know what duas to read after surah yaseen or what to ask for, to complete my forgiveness dua. I seriously do not know what to do.

Please is there a muslim brother or sister who can answer and help me out.

This is fake account/profile but I wish to further ask for help because I feel my life is messed up and I want to be in good personality and adab for Ramadan.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    How about just apologize to her? Why do you need to cry?

  • 1 decade ago

    salaam aleikum sister

    mothers and daughters tend to clash a bit in the teenage years! all those hormones racing around... i know it's really hard when your parents accuse you of something that you are sure you did/didn't do.

    i think you are not the only person upset here... your mother is also probably also feeling tired, overwhelmed and unappreciated and under a lot of stress also, otherwise she would be able to control herself and not continue the argument with you.

    maybe you could surprise her by cooking the evening meal, or making her a coffee or tea and a snack if you're not confident enough to cook for the whole family.

    allah will forgive you (inshallah) if you truly feel sorry, which it sounds like you do. i recommend going for a walk to clear your head, then just go and hug your mother!

  • As-Salaamu 'Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh

    If you want to cry, just cry.

    But you should always remember that paradise is under your mothers feet, so no matter what she says to you, accept it.

    Just keep quiet dont argue, just bite your tongue.

    Did you know that Allah's throne shakes with anger when a child makes a single tear leave their mothers eyes?

    Just be patience, just think of all your mother did for you when you couldnt do it yourself.

    She carried you for 9 months, she looked after you when you were sick, she fed you when you could not feed yourself.. etc.

    No matter what my mum says i accept it because she is my jannah (paradise)

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  • 1 decade ago

    I am not a muslim (I am catholic) but if you feel like crying cry.

  • 1 decade ago

    make out with her

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