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why is it so hard to talk to men?

..I been dating this wonderful man for about 6 months..Over the 4 th of July weekend we planned a trip to lake michigan..we where doing some shopping , when out of the blues he says to me I'm going to buy u a ring someday..I just smile at me & shook my head ..I been waiting a while to hear that..then about 2 wks later he told me he was talking to his x wife..he was having boyfriend problems.I didnt have a problem with him talking to her..they are just friends. but then he says he told her he wasn't going to rush into anything with me.. So It kind of bother me that he said that After just saying he was going to buy me a ring.So I texted him & said u know if & when every u decide to buy that ring .it wouldn't mean we had to rush into anything..& I told him that I knew we both been hurt in the past ..& that we never talk about this things in person..I don't know why? but we never talk about living together.should I be consider or just wait & be patient? I mean what do couple talk about when they been dating for 6 months? Then for my birthday he bought me a sweet heart ring it has our names engraved inside it ..it very pretty & I love it..I have to honest it wasn't what I was exspecting..

I just need your option? what do u think..I guess I forgot to say that he got burned pretty bad by his Ex girl friend he got engaged quickly bought a house moved 60 mile aways just for her then .. just about 6 months later she moved out on him leaving him with a big house payment..What should I do just be patient ..I know 6 months isn't along time ..but I feel we should at least know what each other is thinking about out furture right? thank u for reading this ..I know it alittle long.

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  • Nels N
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago
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    You're taking trips together and he implies that he sees a long term relationship developing. What more do you want, a signed statement indicating an intention to get engaged. It sounds like things are going well. Like you said, he has been burned before, and is wisely choosing to go slowly. In my opinion people should know each other for at LEAST a year before even considering marriage.

    The main thing that would push him away is you bulldozing over his feelings and insisting on a commitment now. Be pleasant and easy to get along with and he will want to make you a long-term part of his life naturally. Also, make sure you pull your own weight financially. If you show him that you're going to sponge off of him, expect him to associate you with his ex-wife who left him holding the bag financially.

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