Training a lovebird... I need some advice?

Typically, if a Lovebird hasn't been hand-fed at all.. they are almost impossible to tame. However, there are some things that can help, so I would suggest trying them before you give up hope.

The first step is to put the cage somewhere where your family is often at! If the bird sees you throughout the day, they are less likely to be fearful. Make sure the room isn't too loud, but has enough stimulation that the bird will be used to seeing everyone. The next step is to make sure the bird is in the cage when you are changing food dishes, water dishes, lining, and even re-arranging toys! The bird will become more and more used to your hands being in the cage, and after a while it won't even phase her. Once the bird is less fearful of your hands, try feeding the bird a piece of millet in the cage, or some other sort of treat. It will take time, but the bird will start seeing your hand as something rewarding and fun. Once the bird is comfortable with that, you can try petting, or asking the bird to step up while you reward her with millet.

It will definitely take time, and the bird may never be the same as a hand-tamed bird. But don't give up! Lovebirds are fantastic little Parrots that are a world of fun.

My lovebird is the opposite, she has been handled a lot, she was handfed and raised by a lovebird breeder. She immediately took to me as her mate and was very easy to train, she lets you know when she has to go poop (if she's on your shoulder or hanging out in your sweater) and will poop on command over a trash can. Then again I started interacting with her right after she was born. She's been acting really horrible ever since I got engaged and then married though only towards me. Then again she also just passed an egg so that was probably adding to her bad mood. It's going to take a lot of time to get your lovebird used to you. I'd try keeping the cage in an area that you frequent and spend time talking or even singing to your lovebird. Is your lovebird a girl or a boy? It's lovebird mating and egg laying season and if they're female they'll pass eggs even if there isn't a male around (like mine did and the egg was almost as big as she is so you can't blame her for being in a horrible mood lol). Plus right now they're hearing all the birds having fun outside which always drove my lovebird nuts. Was your lovebird hand-raised? It tends to be easier with a handfed lovebird because they're easier to train and more likely to be friendly. Peacefaced lovebirds are known for being some of the friendliest lovebirds out there but (like mine) they have their moments. I'd say for now just use a towel or a pair of gloves while handling your lovebird. One thing that calms them is to wrap them in a towel and put them near your heart 'cause your heartbeat will calm them (just try to stay calm and use a friendly voice). As far as the food goes it's a good idea that you're switching off of a seed diet. You just have to take it slowly. Good luck it looks like you have your work cut out for you.

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