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Should i keep hoping that i'll be in a relationship with this girl?
So, I've been knowing this wonderful girl for a year now, we met at school. As time passed, we became best friends, inseparable.
She's been a relationship with another guy ever since we met. I've always had feelings for her, but I was mature and responsible enough to know how far our relationship can go: 'just friends'.
about 2months ago, things changed a lot. Her boyfriend maybe wasn't being the nice person she fell in love with, they were having regular fights, until she once said 'i think I'm single', tore out his picture out of her purse and I was the agony uncle for her. the day after, we went out and shortly we told each other what we felt about us. this kept on for about 3 weeks, I was in the seventh heaven with her, BUT she never lost contact with her bf. Like 2 weeks ago, she told me she wanted to save her relationship with her bf, and that she will love me still. Man, that was one heartbreaker. I never felt so ill, unhappy and unneeded in my life. it really felt like the end of the world. We kept talking to each other, all this happened in summer by the way.
up till last week, she came back from a family vacation, she was texting me all the way and saying how badly she was missing me. She brought me souvenirs and hugged me like she never hugged before when she got back.
The last few days, we've been meeting regularly and going out as if nothing ever happened. I must say I was shocked when she kissed me, on the lips, just days after saying it's over. Oh an that wasn't some two second kiss either.
Anyway, she's still with this guy, still with the same problems and I really don't know what to do! I love her madly, so does she, but she never seems to break up for good with him. I'm 19, and I do have a conscience. whenever we chat about us, there's always the element of 'maybe one day'.... and she does know that she has no future with her bf.
I did try to forget her as a 'girlfriend' and to be 'just friends', I simply can't! there's no other girl like her and there's no other girl that will ever mean anywhere close to what she means to me!
What would you do? I really can't take this anymore, I don't know what to do :(
help! :'(
Hi guys and girls, many thanks for your answers, I have read all in detail.
Well, some things changed.. she finally dumped the other guy, we talked for long and yeah, she still wants a relationship with me. However, she's finding it hard to walk away from the other guy, even though he has hurt her so much lately.
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10 Answers
- 1 decade agoFavorite Answer
If you get into a relationship with this girl just remember that she going to do the same thing to you when she breaks up with you. Shes going to have another guy whos just her "friend" and the first time you guys run into trouble shes goin to run to him to cry on his shoulder like she did yours. Any girl that hangsout with more guy friends than girl friends, should be a HUGE warning sign that she's not relationship material.
Imho you need to get away from this girl, shes a predator posing as a house pet.
Source(s): My life. - 1 decade ago
I say ... ummm
perhaps!!
but... if you really want her
then you gotta make her crazy about you
so here is the plan
1- Go to the Gym.
2- Always talk to her and make some conversations.
3- Make her feel that you are a part of her life.
for sure if you spend everyday with her
talking with her... she'll get used to you being around all the time and when ever you'll go away she'll miss you ... i promise
and being around gonna make her forget with time about her BF
and if she was ever busy in a party or with family or anything
try to trxt her... and if you got nothing to say to her then say somethintg like im bored (if you were) or her guess what you won't believe where i am right now!!!
anyway
4- Be nice... you know where nice leads in the end ;)
so answer mine please http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=Aobw1...
- 1 decade ago
Dude, the ladies aren't worth it!! I was in a similar position, the beginning of our friendship was nice but when we were transitioning into a couple it was effing hell!! And the relationship was worse! Sure she was a great kisser, she had a fantastic body but I was miserable. It was tons of drama.
My Mom told me that the beginning of the relationship will determine the rest of the relationship, and if it started bad, it will end up worse. I didn't want to believe it so I fought to keep the relationship great. But she slept with my brother and dumped me. So I realized that all girls are the same and it's much better to keep them around for a short while and then get rid of them before they stomp on your heart. Do the same and be extremely happy like me.
- 1 decade ago
Uh, to me, this sounds like she and her bf have awesome sex and she can't let him go...
It sounds like you were a rebound guy, and are in the friend zone. This whole situation sounds a little sketch to me. If she really has feelings for you, especially at your age, when she would be mature, then she would drop this guy for real.
I don't know dude, I will pray for you to be strong and find your way through this though
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- 1 decade ago
If she's kissing you and stuff while still with this other guy, HELLLLLOOOOO what does that say about her!?! Just tell her she can't have both she needs to decide who she wants. If she really thinks there is no future with the other guy she'll pick you. But allowing her to play you and still be with him is not doing any good, your just the other guy, her back up plan. Stand up and tell her how it is.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Wow this girl is really messing with you. If she knows how you feel and just keeps leading you on like that then she sounds like bad news to me and I'd be finding someone else that is going to give you the love and respect you deserve.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Right, there's no nice way to say this:
She doesn't see you that way, she never will. Move on.
Stop putting her on a pedestal. She is not special. She is not better than the majority of girls in your vicinity. She is not going to respond to you in the right way. Pursue other women, if you must, but not this girl.
You're not going to win her. Move on.
- 1 decade ago
This is so romantic..!
Aweeh. =)
Kayy, well, its called patience. You need it. Shes with her bf and she obviously has feelings for him. Talk to her about her feelings with her boyfriend, she might turn you down but.. atleast you'll know and wont have to worry about. ONE DAY. You obviously love her, so tell her.. how much you feel for her.. and need her.. and you cant stop thinking about her. Good luck! =)
Source(s): Me. - 1 decade ago
well its obvious that she really likes you. I think she know that she should break up with her boyfriend, its just hard to do so. You should show her how much you really want her and steal her from him. It seems like you could eventually win her over once you show her how much better you two would be together.
Source(s): I have experience with friends who are great girls but they keep getting sucked back into crappy relationships with there ex's over and over again. - Anonymous1 decade ago
Friend Zoned.