How to fix a fight with a bf when he wont do anything to help?

I'm going to quote what someone else said because I am in the exact situation.

"I mean I can't fix it on my own. All I can do is give 50%, the other half is on him and he never even attempts to fix anything. He never likes to speak his mind. Every fight we have he just blows it off, never discusses it with me, and then just waits until it comes up in another argument. I hate that, I like closure. What's the point of just leaving things how they are when niether of us are okay with it? Except of course he'll lie to me and say it is okay, and then brings it up in the future so that we can get at each others' throats again. He'll never say "Well I think _____ because _____ and this is how I think we should make a compromise ______. I try to start it on my own, hoping he'll throw in his opinion somewhere if we actually start talking, but when I do this, either he doesn't listen to me at all, or just hears me out and doesn't say anything back. I mean what the hell, if I didn't want a response, I'd talk to the wall or something. What can I do? This pisses me off."

I feel like we have the same fights over and over again, but since we don't fix them the first time they just keep happening. Almost every fight is started by him being upset with me about something. And instead of simply telling me it bothers him so we can work it out, he turns it into a fight, as if he thinks this will help more.

please someone help me!!?!