Im so attached to this guy for 3 years now.? Please help me :(? I can't hold it in any longer?

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I always know a "player" when i see one and All the girls wanted him. Literally. So i stopped showing him attention. (I didn't want like him nor did i want to end up being hurt). He would always stare at me the whole class period but i acted as if i didn't see him. He also once asked me "how do you feel about me?" but i didn't text back, because i didn't really feel anything for him at the time. We talked on the phone one night from like 11:00pm till 4:00am and we had a real deep conversation. He was the one asking me about me. He even wanted to meet my parents so that they could know him better enough to trust him to spend time with me. Somehow i slowly began to devolp such deep feelings for him that i have never felt for anybody else. 

Our friendship and relationship started to slowly fade away after freshmen year and i realize part of it was my fault after ignoring him since i believed he was a player. He looked like one, acted like one, talked to girls like one. But somehow i think i earned his respect since i never let him get in my pants like all the other girls did ( i know for a fact they did ). He said it was koo and that it was my body my decisions.


 Then sophomore year (we no longer had any classes together) in beginning of the year he would still show affection but towards the end it stopped although he would sometimes walk up to me randomly out of nowere and hug/hold me very tightly for a long time.

It has been 2 years now and i can't get over him. I think he likes me too but he doesn't act like he did before. He now doesn't respond to my txts, never calls, acts like he doesn't see me when im walking by or right on front of his facebut when i act like i don't see him he see me from a mile away and says hi first. Sometimes my friends and i catch him looking at me while im not looking. I think feelings might be there I can see it in his eyes, but maybe i am wrong.

This guy has soo many girls that like him that i kind of feel like i don't stand a chance. Although i have am not ugly at all. Im pretty attractive (not trying to sound concieted). 

So now we are in JR.year and i feel like i am wasting time. I think i truely love this guy. We have been through so much expreinces and shared so many fun moments that i feel like im on top of the world when im with him.. I just want to be the one who he shares his happy moments with. I wanna be thier for him when he is going through a rough time.

I really need help. How should i approach him and tell him my feelings.? and how should i take it if the feelings are mutual?

Romeo · Accepted Answer

You sound like a very sweet girl and i think that you have been very strong to have affection for this guy through all of the times you guys have had. It does sound like he is into you because if he could have any girl he wants and he still randomly tries to talk to you then you definitely mean something to him. Maybe he thinks you don't have many feelings for him anymore because you don't talk to him anymore, i don't blame you tho because in the end you are just trying not to be played and get hurt. I would also like to compliment you for not letting him in your pants believe it or not it earns alot of respect from a guy because it shows that you have strong morals for what you stand for. 

The best thing to do is approach him and tell you how you feel. Make sure you guys are alone somewhere where you can actually have a decent conversation without being interrupted. 

He truly sounds like a grate guy and the whole player thing is most likely just an act of popularity, he is most likely a really nice guy that will treat you good... and asking to meet your parents for there approval... wow that means he really likes you and that he does not just want a fling with you.

I am a guy and to be quite honest i was just like the guy that you like, athletic, popular, but to be honest for four years i had my eyes on the same girl and we finally actually had a heart to heart recently and let me tell you the biggest regret of mine is not having that heart to heart sooner because she is my everything and more, so go for it girl and the best of luck to you

Anonymous · Answer

the only reason any guy makes a big deal out of something straight forward is if thats exactly what happened to him in the past by girls. just straight up tell him exactly wtf you been thinkin and feelin and he'll be straight right back to you. guys are simple, REALLY REALLY REALLY SIMPLE... like you have to be inanimate to be more simple than a guy, that being said, guys can be very smart, but we like it simple and straight forward. it is only because you girls are so different that we seem complicated. as astonishing as this sounds it works: walk up to him, pull him aside if hes with friends, tell him EXACTLY WHAT YOU THINK, NO BULLSHIT, NO NOTHING, just exactly what you have been feeling, and he is going to do the EXACT SAME THING BACK. EASY. then you both know where the other stands and you can go from there.

WSS UK · Answer

Ring him and have one of those deep conversations again, this time YOU explaining to him why you have been acting the way you have and how you feel. 

You need closer - either he will still feel the same, or he won't - BUT you did do something about it.

SarahAnn · Answer

the best thing you could do is just tell him straight up how you feel. if he feels the same way he will be so happy that you said something first (trust me its a turn on for guys) and if he doesn't then it's okay, after all, it is only high school:) trust me ive been there.

maria lowe · Answer

You have so many unanswered questions and all we can do is try to work out what he may or may not want from you.  Ask him to meet you somewhere as you want to talk.  If he agrees, then be honest about how you feel and say you need to know how he feels.  If he does not agree to meet up, then leave it - he doesn't want to know.  I hope it works out for you but please don't waste your life just wondering.

Anonymous · Answer

wee if you really truely love the guy go for it i had a best mate and we have now been together for four years some things are ment to be some arent it all depends on you i would just straight up approach him cause yu cnt keep feeling like this go for it wat is there to lose it has been long enough now true?

Renken 4th · Answer

hah you can help me with my question, you sound like the girl i am trying so hard to get to open up. low experience socially and to afraid to be open to someone. sounds like he likes you and your are insecure with he his good looks and suave actions. thats how the my current girl looks at me she acts like she doesn't like me and pretends i don't exist. first i text her for two weeks straight three or more times a day then she says on the fourtheeth day don't contact her at this number then when i try to talk to other women she cries and seems to be jealous. your virgin type don't make sense please help understand why your are afraid just like my friend who won't open up to me.

? · Answer

I think you should grow up and stop worrying about boys and start worrying about politics.

Airbourne Ace · Answer

you need to apologise for ignoring him and explain why you did, because it hurts. then tell him. simple short and easy :) good luck

Zach · Answer

look this is to long if he don't  got nobody go for it yes or no

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