Would you be concerned if an online person told you they loved you w/out meeting face to face first?

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I met a guy online about 1.5 years ago. For the first .5 yr we barely ever talked. After that for some unknown reason we just started talking more, maybe once a week. Then, we started talking a lot, sometimes everyday. Many of these conversations lasted an hour or more. At one point, a few months ago, this guy tells me he has feelings for me. Now he's telling me he loves me, but we have never met in person; never chatted with web cam (because my comp. won't let us), never talked on the phone (reason for this too), and he's never seen my picture yet, although I have seen his and described to him how I look. But it makes me uncomfortable when he tells me he loves me because reality wise, we don't know each other that much (I don't even know how many siblings he has nor him me!). Secondly, he might find himself unattracted to me once he sees what I look like. He does seem to sincerely like me though. (And for the record, 1) he is not after a green card and there are several indications of why he isn't. 2) he is who he is because I've chacked up on him without his knowing and 3) due to religious beliefs he knows nothing would ever happen together physically unless we are married...and his religious beliefs are the same as mine and he does practice his religion.) 
So, what do you think about the situation?

And for the record, no we did not meet on a dating site; this was accidental. Prior to this I was always one of those people who though, how can you date online?

? · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you found destiny. If it was a coincidence you added him, meeting him, then later on talking to him sounds like a perfect setting for a love story. He tells you he loves you but he hasn't seen you which means he loves your personality, and loving someones personality overcomes your physical appearance. If he is religious and is willing to wait until marriage, I do not think that what your appearance is (I'm sure it's not bad) will bother him. I think you should plan to visit him, or plan for him to visit you to meet each other and get to know each other in person. If things go the right way, then go for it, if you encounter any other troubles, I'm always here to help :).

appebbles · Answer

It kind of happened to me a few years back. But I was so much of a teenager, I went along with him. A lot of drama, conflicts, arguments and time wasted later, I found out he was actually a bored teenage girl trying to entertain herself. Sad, because I think I tend to take things seriously and I am probably one of those hopeless romantics.

Yep, I got er, scammed (?).

But it lasted for three years thus I must applaud for the teenage girl's acting skills and commitment to a story and character(s) she made up herself.

Not being pessimistic or judgemental, but do check on his background. Alarms went off in my head when you said you have never webcammed or talk online. But you did say you have checked, so if you're really sure, then you should continue chatting to him as usual.

Just out of curiosity, are you both Muslims?

Because if you are, then yes, nothing would ever happen until you both are married. I strongly suggest that you meet him in person, regardless of distance. Sometimes people tend to be different online- you may not like the real him. Meet up (with a chaperone if you don't believe in dating due to your religion), talk, get to know each other at least a few times, and if you both want to get serious, then meet each other's family and arrange a marriage.

I am genuinely interested- if you'd like any help, let me know.

bkz_bangin_mami08 · Answer

Its crazy to me that u are even asking this question.
He has NEVER even SEEN u or spoke to u over the phone and he's in love with u????? Do u realize there are ppl who are in actual face to face relationships for months or even years who are afraid to say that to each other??
For him to say that should be a HUGE red flag to u that this man is desperate and/or lonely and possibly has mental issues. No stable human being falls in love with the IDEA of a person. U can be attracted to the idea of a person but to actually be IN LOVE with a person u have never seen, touched, or spoken to even over the phone is sheer madness. Sorry to burst ur bubble. U should be very concerned yes.

He either has mental issues, or is the type of guy to catch feelings for anyone because he's just so desperate and never experienced what its like to really be with someone. Either is something u want to avoid.

Ur a grown adult I'm guessing? This should be obvious to u.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think he should be telling you 'he loves you' if he has never seen you before. Weird.
He probably just wants an online relationship?

? · Answer

i didnt really feel like reading that whole thing he could be telling the truth a guy one time told me he love me and he live in a different state then me and i never even meet him

George Walker Bush · Answer

Im secretive, its hard to know me... I never tell anyone my crushes or feelings or my past...Ha, im so distrustful of the people around me...

When you call me out for friendly outings, I often dont turn up. I just like to stay at home... I like to contemplate...Im actually very deep as a person. and i love philosophy books...

I think a Lot. haaaAaa... im reclusive, and i just like people who like to talk to me... I love to talk, i find that enormously fun, not socialize.

I like to be alone, gather valuable ideas and share it with an understanding person...often either my mum... or sister though, she rarely Understands what im saying...

Sanya · Answer

have u evr een him  before how do u know if he really a boy ot agrown ma and do u love him back  and i would be really concerned u need to meet him in real life before u tell him u love him to

Anonymous · Answer

Not really, it's an emotion... He could be lying though.

Southern Belle · Answer

I think people can fall in love the idea of someone.He might just be attracted to your inner beauty.

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