Sex First Time? Just only for 2 seconds?

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Hello, I'm 17 years old and even my boyfriend is 17 years old. So yesterday, after 3 years together with my boyfriend we decided to try and have sex for the first time. We were both virgins and we bought Durex Extra Safe condoms. I was really scared because I didn't want to get pregnant but buying condoms made me feel more secure since we wanted to lose our virginities to each other. So after we washed he saw some pre ejaculation on his head of the penis since we saw it coming out and he touched it with his finger to check if he was actually right! And he was, so we got a tissue and I patted a bit his head. After that, my boyfriend wiped his finger with a tissue to remove the pre ejaculation that he touched with his finger from his head. And HE! put a condom on by himself. I touched it a bit to see if he put it right but something is worrying me. Can it be that there was a bit of sperm on the condom? Since HE put the condom on? He wiped his finger with a tissue after touching pre ejaculation... but can it be that it was still there after wiping it with a tissue? Were his fingers cleared enough? Then, we decided to take it off due to security and he went to wash his hands but I didn't. And we put another new one but this time I put it on him. Since I touched the first condom we put (the one that my boyfriend had pre ejaculation on his fingers), when I touched the condom to check if it's right, could there be any sperm from his fingers since he touched and put the first condom on (although he wiped it off with a tissue, it was only a little bit) or it's unlikely? He thrust only for 2 seconds since it really hurt and he pulled out quickly. Although he didn't hold the ring of the condom (because he was shocked because I was crying!) the condom was still in place and it didn't spill and slip. I also feel a bit of period cramps but I'm not sure and not all the time. And also, when he pulled out quickly the condom was still in place and it didn't slip. Am I safe? 

What are the chance for me to get pregnant? Also I will be having my period in 4 days and I'm still having clear discharge. Does this mean that I'm not pregnant? I don't like to take pills/birth control. But does the clear discharge mean that I'm not pregnant? And was his finger, after wiping the pre ejaculation off his finger with a tissue, safe? Please help.. I've been stressing all day and last night.. .I don't want to get pregnant... I don't think I am please.. help! Thank you so much :)

Dirrty Dani · Accepted Answer

hey :)
Well first off I would just like to say that the comment that says there is no sperm in pre-ejaculate is wrong.  There is still sperm in pre-ejaculate this is why the with drawl method (were the male pulls out just before ejaculation) does not work as a contraception because there is still sperm in the pre-ejaculate and it only takes on sperm to get pregnant.  However, since you was cautious about using the condom etc I can't see you being pregnant.  Also, yes he should have held the ring when pulling out of you but as long as the condom didn't slip there should be no reason to panic.  As for your discharge, this can change when your body goes through certain hormonal changes such as ovulation, menstruation, pregnancy etc but I personally wouldn't be able to tell you how exactly it is supposed to be.  Due to the fact that your discharge can change through different hormonal changes though, even if the thickness, stickiness, smell or colour changes it may not necessarily indicate that you are pregnant.  My best best is that you're absolutely fine but if you are still panicking about the situation then take a trip to your local GP or clinic and have a free pregnancy test done or you can buy your own from anywhere like boots, super drug or basically any chemist.  The prices will vary depending on the make and what the pregnancy test actually does.  Some just say whether your are pregnant or not with a line, others use words and others can tell you how far along you are etc.  Hope this helps, if you need anymore advice please feel free to contact me ox

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First thing - Chill out!!

I know its a worrying time and experience. But as long as you were safe and used protection, you have nothing to worry about really. 

I don't want to worry you more, but no sex protection is 100% safe. You might want to look into (if you havent already) taking the pill each day. Then if you decide you want to have sex again with your bf, you have 2 things which will help you be safe.

If you are still worried then talk to a friend, family member or even your doctor. If you would prefer not to do that, then just keep an eye on your body. Late period, feeling ill. I would suggest speaking to your doctor.

Hope that help! :)

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Girl, you have nothing to worry about. You and your boyfriend did everything right to keep it safe and your hanged of getting pregnant are very low. You're lucky to be with a guy who is so respectful of you and as long as you keep staying safe I'm the future you should have no problems. 



But, like the other poster said, nothing is 100% effective to prevent pregnancies, but given the situation you described I suspect you are not pregnant and in a few days everything will show itself to be normal!

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There is indeed a SMALL amount of sperm in pre-***...but you are WAY TOO UPTIGHT about this whole deal.  As someone else already said...STOP trying to have sex if it freaks you out this much!  You won't enjoy it anyway.  Stay with oral, anal, or abstinence...any of which has to be more fun than jonesing about pre come on the tip of a digit!

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I'm pretty sure there's no sperm in pre-ejaculate, so I'm pretty sure you're safe.

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your fine. if your so freaked out about the possibilities of getting pregnant don't have sex!!!!!

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