Would you agree that infidelity is a form of emotional abuse?

I agree that it is a form of emotional abuse and probably the biggest betrayal and loss of trust you can cause someone.

I drove over 100 miles in hot weather to find out what was wrong with our relationship. I had asked him why he was detached - his answer "you are out of control and you will be the one to break us up." I was floored. He has a home in 2 states. So I found his car at a restaurant near his home and went in composed. I saw him sitting in a booth in the back of a very nice place - let him see me and I walked up to the table. Got a look at woman and nearly fell to the floor - ugly! It took a few weeks, but he dumped her hard. I left him last week! Finally got over the lies and constant reference to my paranoia, etc.! My whole town turned on him - restaurant staff. He is still fuming that I have the love of so many people. I am still teary about all the support I have - I have not really eaten in a week, but I am gaining my self-esteem slowly. Infidelity brought me to a dead stop and I am an A type person.

I disagree and my reason is as follows: Infidelity is a trait form of action into ones mind at an adolescent time and grown into fashion at an older age, but it remains dormant until this person is approached by two persons wanting affection. This is where the two timers get their name, but in essence it's infidelity that is brewing up and will effect them in marriage.

No personal concept of infidelity would be ruled emotional abuse, but it can be ruled self destruction.

I agree. I also think that whatever drove them to infidelity could be emotional abuse as well.

Yes

Absolutely.

How can there be emotional closeness if there are lies? To me that defines abuse, to take closeness without returning it.

I agree. It's a reaction after having to take so much; tried so hard.

Yes it is..It plays on your mind that you must have not been good enough and how come the otehr person was better then you. It depresses you and buries you whole.

It certainly can be, if the cheating partner is sleeping with someone else to get revenge or to punish their partner somehow.