Female advice for an older male virgin?

If you aren't looking for a permanent relationship, don't worry about it. If you just want to be friends with a girl with out strings get involved in a club or other activity. If you date you will be giving the girls the impression that you are looking for a long term relationship, ie marriage and family.

Romance is flowers treating a girl/woman like she's special. Putting her needs in front of your own. Notice that I didn't mention sex and intimacy. Those are things that come with time. I am very old school. Sex is something for the married folks.

Experience isn't as important as how you treat her. If she loves you experience isn't what she is looking for. Sex is an expression of your love for someone it isn't mechanical it is emotional.

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People in long term relationship actually live longer better lives than those that don't. You must have some bad experience of your own or someone you live to have that feeling. Not all long term relationships turn out badly. I come from a family that the couples in my family have been together for at least 18 years. I've been in a relationship for 22 and my parents were married for 51 years before my Mom passed way due to cancer treatments.

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You asked about romance. I was talking about always putting her needs in front of yours but at least be willing to give up a thing you like once in awhile to be or do something with her. Sorry I wasn't clear on that one.

Well, first off, most women that you would be interested in, 20-30 somethings are looking for someone to settle down with. The biggest turn off I would say is that you do not believe in marriage and you never want kids. If you don't believe marriage is 'healthy' why would being in a relationship that will never go anywhere 'healthy'? Several women would find it attractive that they are their mans first. My man was 30 before he lost his virginity...

As far as the online dating site, try just using the chat feature to talk to someone. You don't necessarily have to go out with them, but just talking to a girl might help you feel better and give you a confidence boost.

I'm not trying to bring you down, just answering truthfully with my own experience and views.

You're gonna have to face the fact that women at your age are looking to settle down. Not necessarily get married and have kids, but most are looking for a long-term serious relationship. At the beginning of your post thought you were a really nice guy who just never got the chance, but by the end you were starting to seem like kind of a jerk. You're not being open to the women you find on dating sites and instead it seems like you compare them to your ideal woman and if she doesn't match up to all that you want, you don't want anything to do with her. You can't be that picky at your age. There's still plenty of chances for you to have intimacy; it's not over yet. But you need to change your attitude. There's not as many woman at your age that are just looking for flings and short-term relationships, and I think it's time you open your mind to the possibility of something long-term. And your "ideal" woman might not be the best match for you, after all. For all you know that "fun loving, caring person" just might be your perfect lady if you just give her a chance.

Be open to different possibilities and don't lose hope. Good luck man.

If you don't want marriage, then you don't need to have a relationship. It seems like to me you just want sex, which is okay. You need to be honest with any woman you meet in the future that you don't want anything, just sex. There are some women out that that do want that. Course they are more of the "wam, bam, thank-you ma'am"--types and perhaps taking time to "teach you" might make them a little less interested in getting intimate.

Have you ever tried Craigslist? That might be better for you than a "dating" website, since you're not interested in that...

1st off not all women care wat u have or how u look bro. they just want attention and to b treated good well better than good. just flirt, tease, and play with them

sex is huge. i hope 4 ur sake u jerk it alot otherwise boom its over in a heart beat and shes walkin "deuces Flash". better hope u can hold it in and dont be afraid 2 tell her to stop or slow down. she will usually understand

when ur around a girl flirt with her a bit. hell even b a bit upfront some girls like a big egotistical sex only guy. dont ask me y but they do

peace and good luck and dont knock having kids they r great

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it is true that many women like men to be 'leaders'...but not all...some like guys who they can control..(that doesn't sound good :S)

Wasn't there ANY interesting girls in your school, university, workplace, bars.....friend's friend?

many people will condemn me for saying this...but how about going to Thailand or other countries in Asia. If you feel you are not confident enough then you need to find women who feel more inferior..and automatically look up to Caucasians...

let the thumbs down begin!

i didnt ready it all but...HOOKERS^_^