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Which way to go? Right or Left?!?
Okay, well...I guess this is intended to get opinions from people who doesn't know me or the people involved.
Well, in a nut shell....I was with a guy whom I thought was the man I was going to marry. We were together 5 years and I can say I was and maybe still am madly in love with him. Unfortunetly we broke up about a year ago. How it all happened in my eyes is we lost communitcation after we lost a pregnancy. I was upset and he was too, but more an out of sight out of mind type with the situation. Then again an unfortunate evet happened and I lost my job after moving into a new place together. I believe this is where the communication ended. As for me I have a lot of guy friends, but they're exactly that, friends. Brothers even. Well I turned to them for advice as far as my boyfriends actions where at the time. He none the less didn't take likeing into this and started to think it was more than a friendship with a few of them for whatever reason. For a while there the insecurities got so bad where I couldn't even get a phone call without him screening them. It was very frustrating considering our relationship had never been that way in the past. Then all the things we did as a couple and with our friends became what he only did or only with his friends. I then started to feel left out or kicked to the back burner as one would say. So, then I just decided to start spending more time with friends and family. Boys and girls. This then looked to him as I was cheating and not being true and it just got progressivly worse. We decided to move out of the place we had together due to finacial reasons. I moved back home to help take care of my dad and he moved in with his sister. We still were together at this time but I started to see him less and less. As Thanksgiving approached we had plans to have dinner with my father and then he was going to ride up north for the hunting season. Well, he decided he wasn't going to have dinner with my family and I any longer and just went hunting. This had me very upset due to me always being there for his family functions and me again, feeling kicked to the back burner. I then deciced to end the relationship if I wasn't going to be acknowledged as someone important.
After this I started dating a new guy, which I've actually known through work. We worked at the same healthcare facility for some time but on different shifts. One day we ended up running into eachother at a local pub and exchanged number and I guess you could say the rest is history. He's an awesome man. Hard worker and has always managed to put a smile on my face. We recently had a falling out on the account of he thinks I don't except the fact that he has children, when if fact I don't care. I don't have any of my own so children naturaly make me nervous. Especialy preteens! I guess there is a fear of rejection. I was an only child to divorced parents so I knew how it was to always have a boyfriend/girlfriend around. So, when he would ask me to go and spend time with his kids with him I would decline only because he doesn't see them often and I think he should spend that time he is given with them.
Not me. Plus I didn't want them to think I was taking their father away like they had felt about his previous relationship. This I all explained to him and it didn't seem to do much good. Then again with this many insecurities started flowing and he broke up with me after hearing a rumor that I was with his brothers friend, when if fact I don't even know who that is. Well, I deciced after he came back to me saying he wanted to get back together and he was wrong that it would be best if we just stay single and work towards us and having a relationship again if thats what we wanted. Which I do. I do love him, but I can't help but think about my ex almost all the time.( I will now refer to the boyfriend of 5 years to ex"A" and the new ex to ex"B") There was a point in the break up where I did see him again, hang with him again and spend time together again(exA). It was wonderful. Yet, he always made comments about my ex "b". About his age (he's 8years older than me) and about him having
We grew up together in a way. I was in my early 20s and as he was when we started dating. My family became his family and vise versa. Now I just feel like I have a big hole in my heart, but I just don't know if it would be worth going back after the problems we've had. I know they always say everything that is ment to be will be and I know he loves me and I know I love him, but has not really talked to me since I decided to try and work with ex "b" because ex"a" and his comments were not what I wanted to deal with again. Or should I work things out with ex "b" who I always have cared about for a while now.
He's a big part of me as well...I am suck in a fork in the road. I'm in a way scared to say I'm going to stay single and keep my options open in fear that I'll hurt someone. But I know I love two men who mean the world to me, I just am not sure which way to go....I hope there is enough information. and thanks everyone in advnce for they're time. I would also be available on chat to disscuss more is anyone is interested in recieveing more information. rachellee2712
Ex b is also very clingy in a way. When I want a day away it's me not wanting to be with him anymore. Or is it something he did wrong? Or he has this way of always finding out where I am when I'm out with my friends and ends up there like it was a coincedence or the endless texting and calling when we're not even technically "together". I don't know. Just thought I would add that in.
