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I'm in Oregon and need help filing for sole custody?
The father and I split up months ago. We were never married but have a 4 yr old. I was the primary caretaker until last March when I began nursing school. He watched our son 4 days a week while I was going to school. I had his full support in this with him saying "if you're doing good, I know our son will be doing good". I just started seeing someone and he found out. Today, he told me he's filing for full custody when I went to drop off our son. I ended up leaving with our son. I know this is solely because I've started dating someone. This is someone who has been emotionally abusive and has made 2 indirect threats towards me that scared me enough to take caution. He has 2 felony assault charges in which he did time for in CA so I have reason to fear him.
I have no idea about the process of filing for custody or how to get advise. My income is limited right now so a lawyer is out of the question. Please help me?
I was on the phone with 911 when the situation turned scary and I believe 911 calls are recorded. It's people who make light or make women feel invalid for their fears that puts women 6 ft under. Sorry if I made this sound like he deserves your pity but hardly. His ex charged him with abuse, he's done 3 yrs for 2 counts of assult (was attempted murder charges) on a man. I've lived with him control & left in 2009. I've provided for our son by giving him food & items & even loaned him money which he still owes because I left him & now telling me he's going to take custody. Why now after all this time unless it's to hurt me but the sad part is that it's our son who's the one who will be hurt all because I chose to improve my life and he can't accept that it doesn't include him. No one deserves to be dictated to, have their things destroyed or their privacy taken away just because they shared a bed with someone. Nor is it okay for him to use our child to get revenge on me.
I would be able to afford a lawyer if he would pay me the 4k I loaned him last August. I've been also giving him food to feed our son, giving him a few thousand in items to sell so buy things for our son and was going to be the one who insured our child (something I can't do if he was sole custody). I think the judge is going to see how much I put into providing for him and my ex and how the custody issue just arose a week after he found out I was dating someone rather than in Jan 2009 when I moved out of his place.
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- Pancho N LeftyLv 61 decade agoFavorite Answer
If you can not afford to hire a lawyer and can not afford to consult for an hour or two with a lawyer (call around to check costs for limited assistance), then go to the courthouse for an informational and forms packet for parenting issues or go online to the state court web site for the necessary information.
The issue of a restraining order against him may be affected by how long ago his run-ins with the law were and the specific facts regarding abuse. Contact a local women's crisis or supportive e center for further assistance in that regard.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
If you are too cheap to get a lawyer, then expect your ex-boyfriend to get full custody of your son. Once he files for full custody, then the wheels are in motion for a court to make a decision. If you get a lawyer, then you may get joint custody. Sole custody for you is unlikely, especially since you were sharing care of the child until just recently. Your BS story about being afraid of him will only irritate the judge, since you showed no fear until you he filed for sole custody. Judges see right through lies like that.