Would you make any more efforts to save this friendship?

My response is not going to be sugar-coated and will, on the surface, seem insensitive ... however, in my experiences, I feel comfortable and confident in standing by my suggestion.

first, you cannot help your friend. As such, if your continued friendship depends upon either you feeling you must help her or her feeling you must help her, then the friendship will dissolve (and maybe -long after her relationship with her husband has ended, the two of you can renew your friendship).

A trained therapist (counselor) is your friend's only hope (or the sudden death or disappearance of her husband). If you feel compelled to reach out to her at all, it should be with a referral to therapy ... and that's it. No comfort or reassurances ... simply a referral to therapy ... be consistent with that.

In my view, anything else you do -all with good intentions I'm sure- furthers the distance in your relationship with her and does exactly the opposite of what you want.

this women does not need a "friend" for what she is enduring ... she needs a therapist.

I feel that you should try to talk to her a few more times again but when she's alone and don't immediately tell her that she needs to leave him but work your way up to it. Remember that she hasn't left so she could still be in love with him, scared of what her life without would be if she doesn't have the money/education to support herself, etc.

You need to make her realize there is a problem and that she can leave her husband.

If anything and you see that she just won't budge just keep being her friend so that at least you'll be able to watch out for her when/if things turn physical. If that happens you should just call the cops.

She's probably avoiding you because her husband told her to do so. Not that she actually wants to avoid you. You have to get in their mind and realize that a person who's getting abused thinks that if they do what their abuser tells them too, that things will get better. But really, they will not get better.

I suggest you try to talk to her whenever her husband is not around and maybe even go to a support group together. She really needs to get away from this marriage before it turns into physical abuse.

Sounds like she has a major problem for a husband and she has chose to live with it rather then try to change him or simply leave him. Love does strange things to people. It appears that she may just be in Love with him and chooses to tolerate his behavior rather then try and change it.

It's a touche matter and your friendship with her may or may not survive it depending on her choice of how she chooses to deal with this matter.

Be there for her but don't try and change the way she feels about her husband because she is the only one who can decide what is best for herself.

Good Luck

Friends are there for the good times, the sad times but most of all the hard times. Seems to me she is going through a hell of a lot of stress. She doesn't really have some one to go and talk about her problems if she's your best friend and wouldn't even talk to you. So it's up to you to go to her and talk with her. If you don't think your friendship is worth all the talking and arguing that you and your friend will be doing, then don't do it.

we do always care befor putting our nose in a couple to criticise how they live in their mind!may be possible that she agree with this relation to be verbally meastreated only verbally fe sometimes I use slang with my girlfriend but keep the good latin words in front of strangers....

Their relation is based on domination some women like to be dominated the pure relation far from creasy feminist or a behaviour near to the nature a few like animists LOL

i think i would try to find her and just talk to her face to face bout why she is avoiding u and if she still wants to be friends? soo basically just express whatever is on ur mind or whatever u want to ask her and see how it goes