What causes or influences how "effeminate" or "masculine" will a homosexual man "act" like? I'm sure you've?

seen the "flamboyant" males, they have a "lisp", their body movements are feminine, etc. But, you also have gay males who are the opposite, who behave "normal", as in being masculine, lack of lisp, lack of feminine attributes.

I'm not implying that being more "masculine" is more normal than being "effeminate", but in this context I'm using the word "normal" to describe a more broad behavior seen in men (of course, not all). Also, I know I know not all gays fit into these 2 categories, it could more fluid o rbe neither of these.

Does anyone have any personal history or theories?

Thanks.

NOTE: You can respond for homosexual females if you like.