I think working together may be ruining our relationship?

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So here's the deal. I just got married in July and we both accepted graduate assistantships at a university working together. The thing about it all is that our sex life has went down (mainly me) and I think its because we see each other more often than I can handle. When we were dating and engaged we lived an hour apart and would have crazy sex when we'd get together. While knowing that we would obviously see more of each other being married, I think it would have been differerent if we'd kept our jobs so that way we'd have that 8 to 10 hour span of not seeing each other all day. Also I think I may have problems adjusting to being back in college as well as now living in the Michigan. (We lived in the South, but she's originally from this area.) Not having any friends to really talk to in the area makes it hard as well. I need serious advice. No...It's all your fault cause you're the guy crap.

Thanks In Advance.

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It's the rare couple that can work together and live together...that's a LOT of togetherness and most people don't do well with it or desire it...as you said, it's nice to be able to miss one another...since  it wouldn't be practical to suggest living apart, the best solution I see is to see if there is a way you can not work so closely...can one of you work for a different department or maybe even quit and get a totally separate job??? 

Otherwise, find ways to spends as little time as possible together at work, and keep work professional regarding your interactions, and loosen up and be a "couple" away from work...don't discuss personal issues at work, display PDA, or anything you'd do together at home...keep the two aspects of your lives as separate as possible...

Phoenix21 · Answer

Y'all have alot of new things to adjust to & one of them is the amount of time you will be spending together..yes being apart can increase ones sex life but now you are in a situation where that is no longer an option

it will take time to adjust & you both need to be patient with that. you will have to get use to being in a new place & you will eventually get use to the amount of time u spend together...soon you will get into some sort of routine & that will give u time to concentrate on your down spiraling sex life...just keep in mind sex can be a great stress reliever so think about that ;)

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I think working together may be ruining our relationship?

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