I can't stop hating men. Advice to get over the anger?

I'm looking for a woman who knows what she wants and won't play games with me. The women I've dated seem to think that they like me, then suddenly dump me without explanation. Yet I just take a deep breath, because I know not all women are psycho. I try to be patient, and the right girl will come along eventually.

I've never cheated, and never would. I have a great job already, so I don't need a woman's money. I'm still a virgin, so I don't use women for sex. I'm not abusive, and don't have anger problems. Yet here I am... And I've been single for most of my 23 years.

It's probably one of two things: You actually are attracted to these kinds of guys. That is, until they cross a certain line... Then you move on to the next one. I realized how common this cycle is with one of my exes... I just wasn't "dominant" enough for her. It was right then that I realized that the abusive guys she had dated in the past were just that: dominant. And despite their abusiveness, she liked it.

The second possibility is just that you're meeting these idiots in the wrong places. Bars, clubs, etc. are not great places to start long-term relationships. Even if it's not one of those, try finding somewhere else to meet guys.

Good luck... Good guys do exist...

I am a man, I am not trying to toot my own horn in anyway, but just trying to state fact. I have been married for about 8 years now. The woman I married had three girls from previous marriage. I have taken on the responsibility to raise and love them as my own kids. They are all teenagers, two in High School, and one in College. I love and respect my wife and my three daughters. I did get mad at one of my ex-girlfriends years ago, and punch a wall. She was not around at the time. I broke my hand and learned my lesson.

Sounds to me that you have had a difficult time over the years. I do not know the whole story but can make assumptions on my own. . .based on my life experiences. I am guessing (GUESSING) that you father left you and your mom, probably for another woman. I am guessing (Again just GUESSING) that you have had a series of bad relationships one after another. All of which involve boyfriends cheating, using you as a punching bag, and in general treating you like a piece of meat.

Again assumptions and guessing lead me to believe you keep dating the same guys cut from the same mold. Your dating guys that drink, smoke, and/or use drugs. They have one or more tattoos and body piercing, they do not go to church, and probably do not hold a steady job that they have worked at, for any significant length of time. Or you are just dating "Pretty Boys" or "Bad Boys". If this is the case, and only YOU know the truth. Then the problem is you. Not men. The solution is, you need to date someone different, than your normal type. Do not go to the same snake pit, or septic tank looking for your next date. When you do find someone to date, do not live with them, sleep with them, drink with them, etc. Until you find out what kind of person they REALLY are.

They are messing with you because they know that it irritates you. Don't let them KNOW that they irritate you and this will eventually stop. Killing someone or hurting someone will only make matters worse. You will hurt someone that does not deserve it, and meanwhile you will end up in prison for hurting someone. If you hate gay's now, going to prison for the rest of your life and becoming someone's boy toy will not help matters. My step-mom is the assistant warden at a max. security prison, and believe me you don't want to experience what goes on in prison. If you are having this much conflict at work, find a different job before you do something that will screw up the rest of your life (no pun intended) good luck.

I've never dated a guy with any of the traits you described, not even as a teenager. No boyfriend I ever had treated me poorly, and I had quite a few before meeting my husband.

It's not men in general that are the problem, it's your difficulty in choosing one who is worthwhile. Honestly, it's not a difficult thing to do if you have standards, and as long as you're willing to walk away from a relationship at the FIRST sign of trouble, rather than wearing rose-colored glasses and overlooking serious faults. Abuse and mistreatment from men starts with small things... like "joking" about you being fat, or getting jealous when another guy talks to you, or getting upset when you don't return his text right away. The signs are ALWAYS there, from the beginning. You just have to be wise enough to spot them early.

You MUST have some girlfriends who are in happy marriages. Invite them over for a nice dinner at your place. You don't have to feel like a third wheel. Just enjoy time with them as friends and appreciate the relationship they have. You will be reassured that there are still a few of us good guys out there. The armor isn't so shiny and it has a few dents in it, but some of the us knights can still sweep you off your feet and carry you off into the sunset.

I know my father is a good man but I have not found one in my generation yet. They seem to have become selfish and egomaniacs in the last 15 to 20 years. I wish you luck on your quest I know I failed in the attempt.

Yes, I know him and I am taken!!