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What should I do with a friend who does this?

Every time I mention that I did something with one of my friends, this one particular friend gets very 'jealous', and kinda huffs-and-puffs and says, "well why didn't you invite me?"

Now, I don't want to talk to the friend before I'm about to do something for fear she'll invite herself along; and I don't want to tell her after the fact that I did somethng for fear that she'll think I did something behind her back. The added 'catch' is that she has no problem telling me of HER plans and how they didn't involve me (which is fine...I'm not jealous at that).

I"m wondering what I should say if she says "you could have invited me"; and how I should react when she tells me of her plans.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    if you dont want her to come along then dont invite her. just say that you wanted to do something with a friend just the two of you and then say that your friend can come along next time. that is soo annoying though! my friend does the exact same thing. i feel your pain haha

  • 1 decade ago

    First of all, you can't really help a person with that type of attitude. You should tell her:

    " We are all friends, and we have a right to hang out with one another. And I'm sorry that you feel this way, and I admit it's partly my fault that I keep excluding you, but sometimes I like I need a little privacy with some of my friends, like you sometimes. I don't want to be rude, but you don't tell me of your plans. We all need a little privacy, and maybe next time we can all work something out so we can all have fun together." Good luck!!!

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    hmm, I have a friend like that, who gets very jealous when I hang out with other people, she gets mad at me. I think some people are just like that and don't like it when there friends have friends, other than them. Maybe you could talk to her about it and ask her if something is wrong, or ask lightly why she gets upset when you hang out with other people. OR you could try to explain that you can hangout with people, other than her (nicely of course). Maybe shes lonely or feels that she needs to be needed by you or that your friendship is at a trouble. I asked my friend and she explained that, it felt like we weren'tnt as close as before she though didn'tidnt really wanna be friends with her and was trying to avoid her, i just explained that, that wasn't the case and that i will ask her to hang out more.

  • ?
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    I'd ditch her. Clingy controlling, beotch. If she gets mad at you for hanging out with friends, just say 'I don't complain when you hang out without me, if we were together all the time, we'd end up getting bored with each other.'

    When she tells you of her plans just say, 'wow that sounds like fun, since you're busy tonight I think I'm going to go do _____ with ______. but I'm not sure yet.'

    When you talk to her about plans never say I'm going to... say I might, or I'm thinking about. Say theres not enough room in the car.

    Really, ditch her.... she's more like a controlling boyfriend than a friend. I don't get pissssed at my friends if they hang out without me, since I hang out without them all the time. If a friend reacted that way towards me... i'd flaunt whenever I went somewhere without her... post it on facebook. send her texts that said 'where were you... it was so much fun' etc.

    she needs to go.

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  • 1 decade ago

    Next time she says that just say, " Hey, you could've invited me to one if your fantastic events, yet I'm sitting here looking dumb while you continue your little postparty party. BY YOURSELF ! ", and walk away. If you can't walk away, look at your phone. If a person has to be THAT full of themselves, there's no need in taking time out to deal with them. Hope my answer helped !

  • 1 decade ago

    Well is she a friend u really dnt like ? Does she get jealous? Well I would just tell her that she's not your only friend u have others so just tell her to stop being jealous

  • 1 decade ago

    you could say well i figured you had plans i would but hey im a friggin huge smart a**

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