Our house is not a home...yet?

It's your home- nest away.

If he's not into change...he's got a HUGE surprise coming when baby arrives.

Slip covers for the couches is one thought.

Add your own accessories.

When change is noted (by him or his Mom) just say "You made such a great start, I felt the need to add a splash of me to OUR home." Done...you are the woman of the house now, act as such.

My guess is that if you tell him "in a subtle way" he's gonna ignore your requests. I think you need to let him know that you don't feel like the house is "our home" but "her home"...ask him if his grandmother decorated his parents house for them? Pretty sure that didn't happen! I think bold statements without anger will work better for this situation.

Personally, I could not stand white walls--I would feel like I was in a hospital...maybe you should tell him you're considering a home birth with the white walls and such...that might scare the h*ll out of him and work to your benefit!

Good luck and keep working at making it your home too! :0)

Slip covers and window treatment changes could help. People change curtains all the time, it's non threatening. Slip covers are non threatening and less expensive than new furniture. Some art work you pick out together, new towels and bed linens...all of these are things that people change fairly regularly and you just simply keep easing your couple style in and his mother's style out.

When you buy new things, make a point of pointing them out to MIL along with saying that your hubby helped pick them out, how much he likes it, gush, gush...then ask what color she thinks would go well with her baby boy's choices and sneak in your suggestions till she thinks it's a fantabulous idea. Manipulate her!

By the way, he does need to cut the cord, he's about to be a dad himself!

"To me this is empowering her over-baring character"

Then you are reading more into it then there is. He told you he doesn't like change because what he meant was "I like it as it is and DO NOT WANT it changed." You need to address it with him instead of making it an obvious attack on his mother. The over bearing comments so many times tell me that his mother is a sticking point fairly often for you two and you are not going to get anywhere with that ling of attack. You need to talk to him about you two without mentioning his mother.

Her changing things while you are gone is not okay, she needs to respect the fact that it isn't her house.

Give it a day.. let's see what conversion takes place tomorrow. I wouldn't want you to have to spend all that money erecting a fence until you pick one and stick with it. The next religion might require NO fences.

just have a serious talk about it with your fiance .Tell him how you feel and how you wanna feel. And ask him whos the first woman in his life now? should be you right so tell him!.Remember to use a calm tone so that he just doesnt think its hormones.

My hubby was a mommas boys oh Gosh ...i would even cry to him.

You can make changes to HIS house once you MARRY and it becomes your JOINT home...until then - suck it up buttercup. A baby a marriage does not make...

In the interim - buy slipcovers if you must waste the cash...I don't know if you know this but weddings and babies are VERY expensive.

Change all of the locks. She should not have a key to your place. That should keep her from coming in unannounced.

Make sure the house is in his name (not his mothers name). That may be effecting things.

Also, it is your house - not hers.

Do what YOU want with it.

Peace.

You just have to tell his mother you are taking over the responsibilities of being he wife, and you would appreciate it if she didn't interfere!

Isn't preparing for your wedding and child more important than spending money on decor?