i want a guy... but not a boyfriend...?

I'd agree with you and say that you are VERY confused. But, on the plus side, every girl has felt like this at least once in their life. Ok...here goes:

You are unsure about wanting a boyfriend because you are afraid of being hurt/used, etc. Hate to break it to you, but all relationships carry that risk. You're looking at the dark side of things, when relationships should be enjoyed. There are tons of fun aspects, as I'm sure you know. And if you never take a risk and date a few guys, then you're going to stay afraid and never want to put yourself out there. You can learn SO much from relationships, GOOD, along with the bad. Everyone should get their heart broken at least once, in my opinion. It teaches you the strengths that you never knew you had, and you can lend more advice to friends and family if they ever go through this.

Honesty is the key thing here. If you date a couple and aren't feelin' it, let them know. Expect the same from them. Instead of leading them on, know what you want and don't be afraid to obtain it. Don't be afraid of hurting people and don't be afraid of getting hurt: IT HAPPENS, regardless of how well you think you're preventing it. Trying to prevent it will only prolong the fear, trust me. Just let loose and have fun, girl. :)

In my opinion if you dont know what you want than you shouldnt be in a relationship or have a guy, unless you want something empty. When two people are together in any form of romantic way signals are crossed and physical and mental chemistry will form making it that much harder to break off if things get to deep. If you want someone to be yours, and for you to be theirs theres no way to half *** that without taking the risk; being with someone and putting the label on it, otherwise jealousy sets in, there has to be rules and that never EVER goes well. Trust me on this.

In any relationship there is risk to be hurt, but thats a big part of life, you search for the one meet a few bad people and good people that you just dont mix with in hopes youll get the one that is perfect for you. Ofcourse even in a good relationship on occasion there will be an arguement and some hurtful times, but this is life and no couple will be absolutely perfect. So in the end you are going to have to risk something to get what you want, but life is risk, walking acrossed the street is risk, but the risks in life are what lead us to the most beautiful parts of it and trully makes life worth living. So think about all this and maybe it will help you out, I hope it helps :)

well by the way you type i could assume that your a kid, sorry if i am wrong. Anyway i am 14 myself and i think the best way is to just wait. I see what you mean by getting used at this time an age most guys only want one thing. Now that doesn't mean that you can't have a bf just wait until you feel it's right guys will always like you but than again you say you like guys liking you. You also have to remember that ya it's fun having guys like you but once your together and than you break up you probably wont wanna/ wont talked to them ever again... Hope that helps xD

Just stop leading them on. Or just date. It's not that scary. Every one, I mean EVERY ONE, gets rejected and doesn't want to get hurt. Not every guy or girl will like you. Same for any other person. And if you get hurt in the end, take it as a lesson learned. Try not to do anything stuid, okay? And be careful. Teenage boys can work in clever ways... Well, most of them can LOL :D What I do is tell the truth and tell this ONE guy I like him but I don't want to date at the moment. He'll probably understand, but he probably won't. He's just a guy, don't take it too seriously. We're all human living on this one planet. Every one has their flaws. Just live your life girl!

Well they can't say your 'their's' because if your not officially together as boyfriend and girlfriend you are free to see others and aren't each others.

Don't go with any of them, you've already said your not wanting a relationship right now and it's unfair to lead them on. They most likely want an actual relationship with you or have sex with you, both isn't a good idea because your not interested in that and it's no good you being a sleep around.

Don't be coy with these men, tell them what you want or ask what they expect. That way they can hang around or move on if their not digging what's up. This is only a dilemma for you because ( like many women) your not being totally forthcoming with these guys. Women tend to be evasive with honesty if it threatens the attention their currently giving.

Look..you either have to give up ur morals n juz use guys n break their hearts later..OR just be honest n be their friends..njoy their friendship OR the best way.. be their friend ..a close one..never admit or confess that you love them ( even for fun ) but let them assume that u like them.. You be a friend n have fun!

you say "i just feel like i dont want a bf right now" and then you say "i want someone, bc i love having someone to call me theirs"

until you know what you want its not fair to tell these guys that it might be possible. figure out what you truly want before you drag someone else into the mess...or else someone is going to get hurt

I suggest that you try to be honest (maybe get them all together and beat it to death).

I like chocolate ice cream, I like my dog and I 'like' other things ....but if your feelings are as limited and as shallow as 'liking them' balanced up again 'loving the feeling that someone wants you' ~

'Wants', in what context? Wants as in 'wanting to blow their nose' ~ with you as their Kleenex? Or wants as in 'Giving up everything to BE With YOU', or what?

It is always good to write yourself lists of what you want, but it is even better to write a list of what you do NOT want.

Maybe you should decide to wait until you have matured somewhat in order that you no longer find yourself saying, 'I don't Know' to yourself ~ and stop playing games ~ simply because you can play your games.

Sash..

Love and want yourself. Get your feelings of self-worth from within.

And quit misleading these guys you will only hurt them. Unless you put out of course- then they won"t care if you misled them.