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My 3 year old sometimes wets the bed...?
My 3 year old daughter sleeps with us...we have a two bedroom apt and our older son gets his own room...we are going to get bunk beds for them to share, but for now, she sleeps in our bed. The thing is, sometimes she wets our bed...so what we've done is cut out giving her drinks rigth before bedtime and have her go to the bathroom right before she goes to bed at about 8pm...around 3-4 hours later, when I go to bed, I pick her up and take her to the bathroom again, where she does go, and then we all go to bed.
So my question is, is this a good thing? Taking her to the bathroom in the middle of the night, it seems to be working, but am I conditioning her to wake up in the middle of the night? Is there some other problem that could arise from that?
Toadd a bit more info...
She's pretty good, she's been potty trained since about 2 years old....we never had to do the small seat she just jumped right onto the normal seat.
As for actually peeing in bed, it's been a few months since the last time...and I am never mad at her for doing it...since I feel like it's my fault for not taking her to the toilet. I just change her clothes and put a towel down for her to sleep on and go back to bed.
As for waking her up, I honestly don't think she's awake and I've heard her actually snoring while sitting on the toilet...most of the time I have to stand in front of her with her head resting on my thigh....but I get your point.
@May Smith, thanks but I am not worried about the bed wetting as much as I am worried about the process I am using to get through it...specifically the things I do impact her postively, meaning she does as someone else posted about their child going to the bathroom herself, or negatively meaning that will she now expect me to come and take her to the bathroom every night and on the nights I forget will she just pee the bed.
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- PippinLv 71 decade agoFavorite Answer
Few 3 year olds are reliably dry at night. And it isn't something you can teach. Nor would I recommend disturbing her sleep by picking her up at midnight every night.
I'd put her in pull-ups and/or use a waterproof pad on the bed, and be patient. As her body develops and matures, (it's mostly a hormonal thing -- adult bodies make hormones that slow urine production at night and arrange for our brain to send a signal to wake us if we can't hold it) she'll begin to stay dry on her own. It might happen in a few months, or not for a couple of years.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Staying dry at night is more of a learned response. As the body grows the response can get delayed. Many kids from 3 to teenage years wet the bed and have the need to wear diapers at night. Our doctor explained to us that as the child grows, the bladder often does not grow as fast which is called an immature bladder. It's a stage where many kids go through to where the sensory to wake the child is not there due to the immature bladder hence the child wets the bed because the bladder will empty. This stage typically happens after a child has been potty trained. Plus as children grow the heavier sleepers they become which doesn't help. It is not something you can train a child for at night. My son is 5 and I still put him in disposable diapers every night (pampers size 7 diapers) because of bed wetting yet some kids can get the response down at age 3 and never have a problem so the age when kids grow out of the bed wetting stage can vary.
I don't think waking her from a sound sleep is the best idea. Our bodies go into deep sleep for reasons so to me as parents we should not interrupt that sleep since it is vital to our bodies. Little people and big people go into deep sleep several times a night. The brain communicates to the body when it's time to wake up and go potty when the baldder is full so the body is making it's own time cycle which to me you should not interrupt. I would simply put diapers back on her at night until she can start waking up on her own to use the potty at night. Many kids wet the bed and have a need for diapering at night so its very much normal and very common.
- Mommy to BoysLv 61 decade ago
How often is "sometimes"? My 5 year old sometimes wets the bed, but it's no more than twice in a one month period. It mostly has to do with either being overtired or he's had something to drink right before falling asleep. It's pretty normal.
A 3 year old is still new to the art of potty training and it's not uncommon for one to sleep through that urge, especially if it's been a long and/or tiring day. Her control muscles are still developing and she is still new to using the toilet when she gets the urge rather than just going. If she isn't doing it frequently then there is nothing to worry about. I would personally stick with having her go right before bed and cutting out drinks no less than an hour before she goes to bed. If she's had an extra tiring day and you have a feeling she is going to sleep harder than normal then I'd go ahead and wake her up, but otherwise let her sleep.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
Thats completely normal my aunt did the same thing to her kid when she was wetting the bed and it actually work my little cousin would wake up by herself and pee then go back to sleep it was so cute but it actually worked now shes 6 and she doesnt wet the bed at all.
- Anonymous1 decade ago
i when i was little used to do this. slept with my mom and dad when i was her age, and kept wetting the bed. my parents would put pull-ups or diapers on me so i would be comfortable with them when i wetted the bed. then after about a week or so, they would take it off of me and put me some panties. if i still wetted those back to the pampers again. when she sleeps try to put her on some towels, so when she wets the bed it won't soak through.
hope this helped!