What do I do now? I put myself in a bad spot.?

hope your current gf finds out and kicks your cheating @ss out. you and the bimbo deserve each other.

You should probably look around on the questions a bit, I'm pretty sure she has posted one, too. Same situation/story. Both of you need to get together for lunch in a public place and talk to each other about it. It seems like you are both spending way too much time playing games. You don't want to hurt either of them, they don't want to hurt you (I'm assuming the third, live-in doesn't, but only because she doesn't know what you have been doing). My suggestion? Ask either of them if they would be into an open relationship instead of having all of the secrecy, lies and deceit going on. As animals, we crave sex, as humans, we crave variety. Open relationships can be healthy as long as you have some pretty lengthy discussions before hand to make sure you cover a lot of ground, but keep in mind that not every possibility is going to come up during talking, some rules will be made up as you go and learn.

Sounds like you want to be with the ex so be honest and tell your live in girlfriend. Seriously doing this behind her back is wrong and you know this, and it's only a matter of time until she finds out, remember the truth always comes out in the end. Chances are if you try to break things off with the now divorced chick, she will inform your live in girlfriend. So make a choice, and be honest to your girlfriend, she has a right to know what's been going on. Think about it if it was the other way around, how would you feel. You know what the right thing to do is, so now it's up to you to do it.

You are being selfish and only thinking about your own needs. I understand you not wanting to hurt your live in but the more you continue talking to this other woman the more hurt you will cause her. So why dont you be honest with yourself and admit that you want this other woman and come out and tell your live in the situation and admit your faults and move on. She will get over it eventually, but you cant have both at once. Thats just wrong.

You have to dump one or the other. You have no choice, if you are any kind of realy man with any morals at all. Break a heart. You owe the girl you are living with your honesty. Tell her about the other woman and she'll make it easy for you to break up with her. You are going to be found out eventually you are better off confessing than being caught.

You are already on a self distructive road things will get ugly sooner or later

You've already left the other one. Who do you think you are, anyway? You need to break up with the one you're cheating on, she deserves better than some loser so "weak" he calls up a woman he used to sleep with, who he just happens to run into. Think about someone besides yourself for a change. I hope the other woman does tell her what a sleaze you are. If you didn't WANT to hurt her, and you really wanted to be with HER, you would not have cheated on her. So now you've got the one you really want.

What a selfish idiot. More concerned with your OWN feelings than with anyone else.

Leave BOTH women, and learn to live by yourself. You can get all the "good feeling" you need with your hand and a sock. When that wears out, MAYBE you'll have gained enough maturity to be able to enter into a REAL relationship with someone.

WOW. All i can do is wish you luck. I was in a similar situation without the affair part and i did what i had to do. I broke it off with the gf so i could get back with an X. Long story but you need to do what needs to be done or you are going to suffer!!! more then you already are. Ever do them both in the same day? That is a kick isn't it.

if u wherent into the now divorced one u wont have slept with her. do the other a favor and let her go. if u cant get over the old one and u care for her and r constantly around, u need to co=ut the other loose so she can find someone better

You've already hurt your live-in girlfriend by cheating on her. You need to decide which girl you want to be with and let the other one go. Either way, someone's going to be hurt.

Wow, what a mess.

Stay with your girlfriend and drop the old flame, like the rag she is!