how can i feel happiness when someone i love is suffering?

Sorry to hear about your dad's lung cancer.. but you can be there for him.. Just show him that you care.. Sit with him. Hold his hand. If he feels like talking about his fears, then be willing to listen. It may help him to just have someone to listen to him about his fears.. and you just show him that you love him and encourage him keep fighting the cancer.. and if he wants to not talk about his condition, then don't bring it up,. Maybe he wants to just be quiet.. and still wants your company, then you don't have to feel awkward because of the silence.. you can feel close to a person even in silence.. you can feel close by merely holding his hand.. and if he withdraws it, then you accept that he doesn't want that at this time.. and you just ask him if you can do anything or if he would like you to read to him or he may just want to talk about ordinary things and take his mind off the illness for a while.. then be strong and try not to be too emotional and talk about something he is interesting in and even something funny if he is in the mood or it.. because to just dwell on the cancer is not going to help anyone unless he wants to talk about it...

The other person dear to you who is in the army.. You can encourage that person as well.. The army is about ''Building character and discipline'' the drill sergeant is not really a monster, and he is not mad at your friend who is a soldier in the army.. but he is responsible for training him and making the best soldier out of him as is possible, so he shouts.. that is what Drill Sergeants do and they do that with everybody and your friend is no exception but he is not the only one.. If one decides to join the army, which is ''optional'' then if someone wants to become a soldier, he has to get the best training possible and he has to learn to obey orders and do a lot of things that seem very though at the beginning but for a professional soldier it is vital that he goes through that hard school of disciplined character building training in case he gets sent out when he is suffiently prepared and trained.. to go to a war zone, and he stands a much better chance to survive out there if he gets sent to be a part of a real war zone, when he has learned everything possible.. then he is as prepared to face the hardship and the danger much better than if he had a ''milksop'' as a Drill Sergeant.. it's never personal between the Drill Sergeant and the soldier he shouts at.. it's a miiltary way to make them learn discipline.. just try to tell that to your friend.. to not take this personally as a personal verbal attack from the Drill Sergeant to your friend as a person.. only as an order to obey in his function as a soldier...x

I am really sorry to hear that you are going through all of this.

I just lost my brother a week ago, he died in a bus crash(he was only 32), I loved him so much and he was my best friend, now he's gone from my life and I will never see him again or hear his voice. Now I am grieving and I don't know how to cope with his death. It is the most terrible thing happened to me in all my life.

just take care of your father and be there for him when ever he needs you, tell him how much you love him. I wish you good luck and I hope your father will recover soon. you stay strong and take care of yourself as well.

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I just found out my mom has cancer =(

toughing it out is all we caan do and love our family as much as we can and when its all over know you did the right thing and the happieness is knowing we did what we could for them

im so sorry =( stay strong

that's a tough one, but you have to realise that you are not responsible for the choice other people make or the crap that life throws at them... you can only ever support people, be willing to listen and be full of empathy. but how their lives are is not your responsibility. often in life people have to go their own way and make their own mistakes... just be there to help mop up and mess and pick up the pieces!

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