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Is it ok to go out for drinks with a work friend of the opposite sex?

I'm in a committed and serious relationship. We love each other very much and I have been staying with him at his place for a while now. I went out for a couple drinks with a former co-worker. He is in his 40's and is a very nice guy. I'm 22 and he has never made a pass at me or any inappropriate comments. I wass gone for a couple hours and came back and it turned out that it bothered my bf a bit. I don't have many friends and my chances for social gatherings are slim. I didn't see anything wrong with it and it hasn't come up again and wasn't really a big deal when it happened.

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  • 1 decade ago
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    Jealousy, although very irritating at times, is normal. IF he didn't get jealous at all, it means he doesnt care. In regards to the friends thing, yeah, its very normal to go out with friends of the opposite sex. And if he hasn't made a pass it you, it sounds fine. Just dont allow yourself to get into any compromising situations with this older bloke. IF your going to hang out, do it in public a) for your safety and b) for piece of mind to your boyfriend. MAybe invite him out with you so he meets him.

  • 5 years ago

    unusual? No, less than no circumstances. Is it ok? positive. is this a great idea? probable not. Now to be honest, your ex-boss might want to easily be a hospitable guy. My challenge is more advantageous about your reaction to all of this. If i change into your close buddy (or your counselor) and also you instructed me all of this face-to-face, i'd look you in the interest, allow you to realize to be one hundred% straightforward with me and that i'd ask you once you've an interest in a fling with this guy. How probable are you to grant in to temptation in case your ex-boss comes on to you once you're travelling with him that more advantageous day at the same time as your buddy isn't round? Your husband is a real gem, my expensive. His reaction to this shows that he trusts you thoroughly, and that is fantastic. the authentic question is: are you thoroughly straightforward? once you've ANY fantasies about what might want to happen once you go on your ex-boss, do not pass to work out him. era.

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    While not wrong in and of itself it tends to look wrong and would bother a good many boyfriends. Also younger men know all too well that older men are often much more desirable for young women who seek them out for companionship, their maturity and their skill at sex.

    Human bonding has been well studied and is a automatic process when a man and a woman spend time together even when both of them are no seeking to bond. In fact it happens even when they dislike each other before spending time together. So spending time in such a one on one setting is perhaps playing with fire.

  • 1 decade ago

    I'd still think you should bring your bf. I personally wouldn't trust my gf to go out for drinks with another guy. You never know what a guy's intentions truly are.

    VIVA LA RAZA!

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  • Eiliat
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    Yes, it is ok. People have friends

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