Why is it so hard for me to get over my ex?

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We dated on and off for 3 years and it just ended for good over 2 weeks ago. He graduated from high school last year, so I didn't (and still don't) even see him anymore. Basically he used to be so sweet and I'd be the only girl he'd want to be with (and when we broke up he'd actually care), and now that he has facebook he adds random sluts he doesn't even know and claims he loves them.

I questioned him about this multiple times and he said they were just friends. Then I found out he blocked me from seeing his facebook wall, and from my sister's account I could see that he was talking inappropriately with them. I asked him why I couldn't see it, and he said he didn't know why (yeah, right). So maybe this wasn't smart, but I made a fake account to see if I could catch him, and he somehow figured out it was me and said "We're done". So then I told him not to call me anymore cuz I'm through with him coming in and out of my life when it's convenient for him. That didn't seem to bother him at all, and we haven't said a word to each other since. I deleted him on facebook and he apparently blocked me. I keep checking my phone for missed calls and it's driving me crazy. I mean, we used to talk for hours everyday. Another thing he told me in our conversation where we broke up is that he was losing interest in me but didn't want to make me mad. Thinking about everything he's put me through helps, but I still keep thinking about the good things, which makes it very difficult. I keep myself busy and that keeps my mind off him, but later I think about him again. And dreaming about him here and there doesn't help at all. What should I do?? I know it's over for good, but I just can't accept it :(

Knuxieh · Accepted Answer

Alright, I'm no expert, but I sort of went through the same thing you're going through :&#92; Its no fun, trust me. Its more than normal for you to still think about him - I mean you guys DID date for three years. And who knows how long you even knew each other before you two dated? That's a long time. You're bound to still think of him and the good times. There's nothing wrong with that - But it is when you get to the point of it driving you mad :[ I had an ex and we used to talk forever. Then, he broke up with me because he said the relationship was empty. When it wasn't But I'm digressing. Point is - Just, as simple as is sounds - Try to get over him. He's obviously leaving a great someone behind for someone else to take care of. :) I know it'll be hard and all - But just keep talking about happy things with your friends and get positive things to do to take up all that time you're spending worrying about a guy that doesn't want you anymore. :] It'll get better, trust me. :] My best friend is going through something like that just now. She broke up with her boyfriend just a few days ago. It wasn't really working out and she felt bad leaving him but it was for the best. We keep surrounding her with positive energy - And eventually, the hurt will slowly start not to bother you that much. :]

Hope I help in some way! And sorry if I don't make much sense! Haha. ^^

? · Answer

Everything takes time.  Just wait it out.  In the meantime though, try and find something to do with yourself.  Meet new friends, try new things, pick up a new hobby, etc.  In a study that was recently done, it was found that it takes 1/5 of the total length of the relationship to get over the person.  So if you were with him for 3 years, it will take quite a while before you are completely over him.  Just move on and meet someone new, even if you don't feel like it.  Force yourself to, you will thank yourself later.

? · Answer

Unfortunately this is one of things that only gets better with the passage of time. I know that dont help but thats really all there is to it

A M · Answer

if u find the answer to your question
plz let me know as well
becuz i am suffering same thing....

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