Boyfriend doesn't love me any more? :( long but please read and help if you can x?

You haven't said how old you both are, the reason I'm saying this is because I went through something similar with my bf a few years ago. He went really funny with me all of a sudden and was going out wih his friends alot and not treating me right. When I asked him what was wrong he said I was paranoid and imagining things, fast forward a few months later and he finally admitted that he just wanted to be able to come and go as he pleases, he was too young for a serious relationship, he didn't want commitment etc. So we split up, broke my heart too. The good bit about this story is that we got back together a few months later and are still together now years later. When I mention it now he says he just felt overwhelmed by the speed our relationship was going in and that he wanted to see more of his friends (which I was never really that happy with because his friends were the wrong sort.) With your situation, I think you need to tackle him head on, one thing I've learned is that if you think things are not right then they're probably not, you have to trust your instincts. Tell him you wont be treated like that and if I were you I wouldn't spend christmas with his family while he's being like this. If you love him you can only try and figure out what's behind this by talking to him, if you don't get anywhere then maybe it is time to walk away, I would be very bothered by that text on his phone though, that would need some explaining. It could be the fact that he's met someone else, I hope not but it's a possibility, which is why you need him to explain himself. Your life is hell right now and he's not doing anything to make you feel better, if he really loved you he wouldn't want to see you so upset. I hope it works out though x

Well you've already tried talking to him about it and gotten nowhere, instead of spending all your money on him why not spend it on some relationship councilling? Maybe he has commitment issues and realises that now things are getting into the long term relationship phase he's gotten scared?

It is abit extreme he has not even met your parents yet after a year but again this could be too much of a serious step for him, just because he jokes around with his mates about already being married doesn't mean he's ready to get married maybe he just means he feels as if he;s married because you go on at him or something.

I really think if you both want to make it work you need some proffessional help to get everything out in rthe open and see where to go from there and if he isn't willing to try then you have your answer don't you?xxxxxxxxx

Stop being this guys doormat. He just uses you for his convienience. He has gone off you it seems but hasnt the guts to tell you. I think he does feel some guilt about the way he treats you and he knows you'll be happy if he throws you a bone, hence the smarmy texts. I bet he sends them usually before he asks you to something for him. You seem a nice girl, please remember he is not the only guy in the world and your instincts are probably correct about him chatting up other girls. Start standing up for yourself. Stop answering his texts. Let him call you. Do not go to his for Christmas. Say you've changed your mind and will be stopping with your parents. Make sure you invite your friends so you don't have to sit moping about him. Don't go rushing to meet him so can leech off you for drinks, dinner, travel etc. You are no longer his ATM machine. Have a little makeover, do your hair get some new clothes and go out to clubs, start enjoying life. He'll soon come running...Hopefully, you'll have found a decent guy by then. Good luck!

The only thing you can do is sit him down and have a heart to heart thats the only way your going to find out whats going on.

Set a time/date to do something together and give him advance notice so that he cant make an excuse - make it light hearted and have fun together then ask can you have a 'talk'

Good luck and try to be strong I know how difficult it is as I've been there before - talking is the only option if you love him and want to stay with him - thats what I did and I resolved it. x

A Woman's instinct is always right, follow it...if you think something is going on, get to the bottom of it. I Myself had a boyfriend similar sounding to him, and he made me feel stupid, like it was all my fault and that i was paraniod, and even swore on my life he was up to nothing. But he was carrying on behind my back texting women, facebooking them. Ater i discovered this i still stayed with him for a while as he promised never to do anything again. But then he started staying out all night and putting his phone off etc. And then saw texts again about 'meeting up' from another woman....that was it for me, He made a fool of me for long enough. Have a word with your bf and tell him how you feel, and if he loves you and respects you he will do anything to keep you. If not, trust me move on as there are wonderful caring men out there! :)

That was a long one but that's okay u are in need for help. There are many different reasons he could be acting like that. One could be his mood swings. Even though most people say that only girls has mood swings guys could act like that. It could also be that he has moved on to a new girl and can't find a way to break up with you. Even though he wants to move on he might just haven't found a way to tell you. It could be tons of different reasons!!!! Hang in there girl!!! God bless you <3 <3 <3

I really feel for you. Not sure what to say as the answers other people have left are what i'm thinking to. You just need to be strong and stand up to what you believe an tell him. If he don't want to know then he isn't for you hope everything works out for you

ah dear hun :-/ i know exactly what that is like, i was with the guy for 2 and a half years tho. I'm not overly sure what to say about the matter, but honestly if he was like that with me id tell him EVERYTHING that was getting me down, and after telling him & he wasn't bothered, or if he doesn't even listen & isn't bothered i would ditch him.. hence what i did when i was in your situation. i know it isn't know where as easy to do it than when someone says it; but you might be happier with the result? I'm happy with my new bloke, sometimes i do miss the other one, but then realised i deserved better than how i was being treated & thats what you need to do, its like you barely exist to him & esp. that text from "baby" goes he's props hiding a girls name from you. i hope everything goes well for you babe.

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you seem to be quite high maintenance give him some space . you dont have to be together every moment he might feel like its all too much . sorry