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? asked in Family & RelationshipsMarriage & Divorce · 1 decade ago

Infidelity: Personal experience?

Lets just say multiple.

Did you stay or go?

Update:

None were physical, or so he says, and I verified with a few of the b*tches, but there were many, I went through call logs and many were to an ex, a couple to random women he'd met on some dating website, and one or two that he'd hooked up with in the past.

He says it was purely about sex, as if everyday wasn't enough, and I believe that, he's not smart enough to handle two, or more, emotional relationships at once.

I have his life in my palm, his military career could be ruined with the emails I have.

At this point I don't know if I'm just staying because it's too hard to leave ( we're stationed in Germany ) or because I actually want to stay.

Update 2:

The day I found out and confronted him, broke down, cried, blah blah blah, called a chaplain, and has now been going to marriage counseling by himself once a week since that day. He also gave me all his passwords.

Update 3:

Sorry, HE broke down and cried**

Update 4:

I've told him that as of now I will be leaving Germany in February unless he gives me a reason to stay.

I'm not unattractive, I don't need to cry myself to sleep because at the end of the day I end up blaming everything on myself.

I've never been a weak person, but I pity myself for still being around.

I love him, obviously, I actually stuck to our vows and was happy to, but I'm not sure if it's enough.

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  • daisymay
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago
    Favorite Answer

    I'm dealing with infidelity now. Me and my husband have been married for 7 years and we have 2 children. About a week ago I found out he's been cheating for about 4 months. He sounds like he realized he made a mistake and promises that it will never happen again. I'm trying to stay and make our marraige work but honestly I can't get the thought of them together out of my mind. I want nothing more than for my children to have a happy family and I love my husband very much but if he does it again I will have to leave. If that happens at least I'll know I did everything I could to make it work and when my children suffer during the divorce I'll know it's not my fault.

  • Mimi
    Lv 7
    1 decade ago

    I left, but it wasn't because of the guy I cheated with. I think I just realized how unhappy I was. I have never cheated after that and never will cause the guilt did and still does consume me. I did come clean to my spouse though. Turns out he had also been getting some on the side.

  • ?
    1 decade ago

    Had a boyfriend that cheated multiple times before I learned of the first time. And I RAN.

  • Rachel Bevins
    1 decade ago

    multiple times and stayed

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  • ShaNayNay
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    i stayed.

    might not have been the best thing in the world to do - but i'm still learning.

  • Gary
    1 decade ago

    GO!

    walk out of relationship....

    Supper-infidelity of what kind?.. implications?

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    Go or accept that you are going to get cheated on again..... And again!

  • stephanie_6234
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago

    no experience with mulitple...but I would go! Once was more than enough for me....

  • jizzumonkey
    Lv 5
    1 decade ago

    You gotta go.

    I went.

  • ?
    Lv 4
    1 decade ago

    go--

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