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Girlfriend worried she's pregnant. Worried :( ?

My girlfriend has just told me that she might be pregnant and that she wants a pregnancy test. I'm really worried. All the times we've had sex I've used a condom. We even used the morning-after pill when we were worried the condom might have split.

I'm just not ready for that sort of responsibility. I can't talk to my family about it cos my mum would probably faint or go total bezerk. I want to suggest abortion, but I want to support her in any decision she makes, I just don't feel as though i'm in a good place to be taking care of a child. I also know that abortion is mentally scarring (please no debate on the rights and wrongs here). I feel like crying. I'm SO scared :(

She has said her boobs hurt and she gets stomach pains sometimes, but she sufferered from them b4 we even had sex. It's been a few weeks now since we had sex. We haven't had pentrative sex in a while. Just playing with each other.

She's also had her period last week of November and we're young but over 18. I'm also not one of those bums who will run away from his kids. I want my kids when I do have them to have a dad.

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  • Hailey
    Lv 6
    1 decade ago
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    I think she's just worrying too much- especially if she's not on the pill, any hormonal changes can trigger delays in periods or cramps. Sore breasts are common before a girl's period, and might just mean she's growing. Try and calm down- it would be virtually impossible for her to be pregnant from the scenario you described, and if she is you can deal with that if it happens- but there is no reason to get worked up and worry. I would suggest that if she isn't pregnant she go on a birth control pill for the future, not only because it will be safer for you both (while still using a condom) but her period will be predictable and so she will have a better gage to decide if she's "late" or not.

  • 1 decade ago

    This is scary, but don't panic. Let her take the test. Don't start worrying until you see that test is positive. Condoms don't always work. It's not smart to only use condoms. You want to use that, plus another type of contraceptive to be safer. Sometimes, using the Morning After Pill won't work. They have to be used correctly. If not, things will go the opposite way.

    If the test is positive, you need to take the responsibily. Yes, it is her decision is she wants to keep the child or not. Just stand by her. That's what she will need most. And, yes, if it is positive, you both must tell your parents. You can't just simply hide that fact that she is pregnant. The situation needs to get taken care of properly. Think about what's best for her and that child.

    If the test is negative, you may jump for joy. Just know that you two need to use more than condoms. I suggest and recommend that you guys research safe sex tactics. Even better? Go to a doctor in your free time and ask about it. Yes, it's money, but at least you will know what to do. It's better than learning "tricks" off the streets or from friends. Please, believe me.

    Also, if you want to lower risks of getting pregnant, try foreplay or whatever else. There are other ways to be satisfied. "Playing with each other" is fine, but try not to have actual intercourse all the time if you guys are so worried. I tell teens this all the time. You won't believe how many kids say, "OMG! I am worried that I am pregnant!" And I tell girls (and guys): If you are SO worried, stop having sex. Problem solved. I don't mean to sound aggressive, but I just don't understand why people keep doing these things and they cry about it later. I am not saying this is you, I am just saying it happens a lot with others, especially younger people who are naive to all the things that come with having sex. If you really want to have sex, just make sure you use more than condoms. Again, I suggest you go to a doctor and learn all you can about contraceptives and such. Best of luck!

  • 1 decade ago

    Most every guy has been in this same situation at one time or another. She probably isn't pregnant, women tend to know for certain when they are. Get a home pregnancy test if you want to, oddly enough, they are located near the condoms in most stores. If it turns out that she isn't pregnant, be more careful in the future.

    Source(s): Years of experience.
  • 1 decade ago

    I wouldnt think she is pregnant until you know for sure. Sounds like you guys use a lot of precautions. Also A girl's breasts can hurt after/before she's ovulating. Also, Stomach pains usually dont start in a pregnancy til after you are pregnant for awhile and your uterus is being supported by little ligament also called Round ligament pain............... But yea dude, I wouldnt worry. Have her take the test and if she is just support her and be there for her, but it doesnt sound like she is.

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  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Well you did all you could to prevent... so don't beat yourself up over it. She is probably not pregnant she's probably just messing with your head -_- seriously.

    Anyway, the best way NOT to get pregnant is to NOT have sex.

  • 1 decade ago

    Woah....

    She should probably take a test before you start crapping your pants dude. (maybe 3)

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    Have her take the test before you start panicing...

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    if she is den consider adoption , its better den an abortion .

  • Anonymous
    1 decade ago

    uhh take the prego test....

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