To the men out there ~ preferably the 35 and over gents....?

Austin, Texas...it's an awesome liberal, healthy, athletic and vibrant city, they just opened a kiss and fly, and though there's no "gay ghetto" (might actually be a good thing) the city and its people are very accepting, (Travis Co. the county Austin is in, was the only county to vote against the Texas marriage ban, 60-40). Austin is a major party city from 6th street to all its different lakes there's a lot to do and it's not super expensive either, the city is young, and with all the college students, you'll find no shortage of people around your age, (remember the University of Texas is only a couple blocks from the state capitol.)

You know, I think this is one area where the current pop culture has changed things. There used to be things that you would just never say around a lady, but the constant media blitz depicts women as matching men in crudity...it is almost like the fight for women's equality has won for women the right to use "bathroom humor" just as much as men.

Mind you, I respond to a person individually, and I realize there are different things that different people will find funny. Personally, however, I don't really get crude with women, although I have an offbeat sense of humor. I was raised rather old-fashioned; one of my friends, who I actually first got in contact with through R&S, is a lady who was a hippie in the 60s, and has certainly seen more of life than I have. She and I talk nearly every night, and it is a great friendship. One of the funny things, though, is that even though she is a woman in her sixties and a Christian, and I am a man in my 40s and an Atheist, I am far less risque in speech than she is. In fact, she got to laughing one evening when I just couldn't bring myself to say a certain term; I have that etiquette instilled by the institutions of the old British Empire.

I may look pretty wild, judging from my picture, but I am not so wild as most of my peers.

tbh i do mind my manners around my wife (I'm 37 and we only met 2 years ago) and that is because she mentioned it to me! before that I had been seeing a lot of younger women (18-22) and I have to say that that kind of dirty crass chat does actually turn them on (different women every night for over 5 years) its just that an older woman has grown up and wants some finer thing...it just takes men a bit longer to grow up

I hate to say it, but lots of women these days find that stuff pretty funny for some reason. The girl I like, I always treat with respect, never talk about rude dirty stuff in front of her and then she turned me down because I'm "too nice". She's just starting dating someone, who quite frankly is just a fowl mouthed idiot and she sees it as perfectly normal as it's the way most men behave these days.

If he's used to women going for that sort of thing, then he's going to think it's all right to do it with you as well. Just tell him to his face your not mad at him, but you don't like to hear that sort of thing.

Hello! {{{{{Lady}}}}

They all do that, unless they are gay.

There aren't any men out there that think with the heads on their shoulders, much as I love some of them, {you guys know who you are}, they are all horn dogs till the day they die.

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Sweetie, it could be nerves. I've seen many a man turn into a moron because he is interested in a lady.

Just keep putting him in his place as required & be patient if you think he's worth it. In time, he'll relax & be himself instead of his version of "witty"

(I know you wanted guys, but I have seen this problem often)

Huh

I mind my manners until she makes a joke of that nature. I still wouldnt send everything I would send the guys.

I'm just one of those morons Toke refers to.

RScott

you should make him aware of your feelings, see his reaction and the decide.