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What is he thinking? What should I do?
Met a guy online. We started texting a lot and were flirty through text. After 5 days of that we wanted to meet each other. The night before he asked me If I would want to kiss and I told him, "I'm not gonna make the first move". He picked me up at 9pm and we went to Starbucks, conversation was pretty good with really no akward moments. He then asked if I wanted to leave about an hour later. I told him it was up to him. We left and he took me home. My mom and sister were both asleep and he walked me inside. I didnt know what to say so I asked if he wanted to stay and watch tv. He sat really close next to me with him arm around me, rubbing my side. After about 5-10min of that he looked at me picked me up and put me on his lap. We then made out. It was my first time and I really didnt know what I was doing so I let him do most of it. There was serious tounge involved and touching. He then layed me on the ground and I told him to stop because I didnt want it to go further plus if my family woke up. We kissed a little bit more then stopped he asked me what I was thinking and I said "nothing" and smiled a little. Truth was I didnt really enjoy it. I then said "you should probably go because my mom will get called into work any minute". He asked if I wanted him to go and I said yes. We kissed like a peck and then he left. I texted him the next night just saying hey. He never replied. Today I texted him saying hey....no reply. Then texted again saying I enjoyed the other night with you and im sorry i ended it i just didnt want it to go too far so fast. I also told him to please respond either way....still nothing.
What is going on? Should I try texting or calling and what would I say? Plus what is going through his minds? Would really appreciate any advice!
3 Answers
- Anonymous1 decade agoFavorite Answer
He was moving VERY fast and you were right to stop him when you got uncomfortable with the situation. I can't read his mind and tell you that he only wanted to get in your pants and that's all he's interested in, but you have to consider that it's one very real possibility. You've texted him now three times with no answer. It's his move, now. You should wait to see if he reaches out to you again, and if he does, you should think about having a conversation with him about your attitudes about making out and intimacy. You're the one in control of your own body.
- HelgaLv 41 decade ago
5 days. Oh my goodness! It really doesn't matter what he is thinking; but, what he thought of you during your first meeting. First off, he is not gentleman. He demonstrated a lack of respect for you. When you stressed your parents being home, he totally disregarded what was said and proceeded to make out with you.
Although that was your first time making out, why did you consent to it so openly. That should also tell you something about yourself and it should frighten you. Why would you let a perfect stranger paw all over you. People you meet on the internet will not always be truthful. In my opinion, you not only put yourself in danger; but, your entire family as well.
Reality is that he may have been an axe murderer or some chain saw degenerate. He has definitely demonstrated he could have been a sexual molester who traveled from some other state. He could have taken full sexual advantage of you and your family would have no way of knowing who did it and all within the confines of their home.
That man may never answer your texts because he may have changed the phone number by now, Most likely he used a bogus name and whatever web site you met him on, he probably has several accounts. He won't be found. You'd better thank God you got away with only a slight emotional scar this time. Please do not do that again!
You need to get internet dating out of your mind. There are women who have been involved with internet dating for years, and they still will not consent to meeting the man. That man took advantage of you. Also, you now have to consider he may show up at your house while no one is home and try to take advantage of you sexually. Be very careful. When you attend school, never go alone. Have an older sister or brother accompany you. If you do not have brothers or sisters, ask friends to accompany you to and from school.
You are probably a juvenile and very vulnerable. For a while, at least, stay off the internet. If you must, only do homework assignments, complete them and turn the computer off.
I know what I am saying is a bit disappointing and it is not my intention to frighten you; but, these issues are real and need to be addressed immediately. You must get past the feelings of shame and embarrassment. You will never realize how important life is until it is threatened. Do not take the incident too lightly. Avoid other possible incidents like this. Tell your parents. The police should be contacted. Although he may never contact you again, there is always the possibility, he may. Be honest with the police and they will take it from there. While I lack computer savvy, police have ways of tracking people by way the signatures left by their computer connections. Even if his connections are from a public library, he would have had to log in before use.
There is much more that can be said; but, this has gotten to be very wordy, so I will stop here. Hopefully, you've gotten the idea. In all things you do, be safety minded!
- 1 decade ago
No. Stop it now. You didn't enjoy making out with him and then, he ignored you when he didn't get what he wanted. Stop, now. Find a nice guy instead. Be kind to yourself, etc, etc, blah, blah.
Seriously, don't do it.