Will you help me with this major FRIENDSHIP ISSUE?

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I've known this girl, [let me call her Rosie]. And Rosie and I have becamse really good friends. But, recently, she's been getting involved with people who do drugs and stuff. And she finds the people "so amazing and fascinating". She always seems to love the ones who are bad news.

So, recently, she was hanging out with this older girl. And the older girl took her phone and started calling me a c*nt and a b*tch and all these names. And I told Rosie that she needs to pick who her friends are.

And did I mention she's in love with a MAJOR DRUGGIE?

So, me and my other friend [let's call her Addison] are fed up with being hurt by Rosie and her friends. [Rosie's friend messed with Addison too!] and we told Rosie that we're done. And she started crying at school, making us look like jerks. 

And me and Addison have dealed with being called to the office based on friendship problems with other girls. So, to make sure we weren't called down to the office, we were nice.

But, she keeps on being CONSTANTLY rude. And my parents are on a search to make sure I have really good friends. Not druggie-lovers, and backstabbers.

So, me and Addison want Rosie out of our lives, but we don't want her to cry and us be called down to the office and everything.

Also, I ALWAYS feel guilty. Like, when I say I'm done with someone, I feel like a bully or a jerk. 

How can I get Rosie to just leave me alone, and not feel guilty?

PS--thanks for clicking this and answers. *here's a cookie!*

XSkylinexX · Accepted Answer

Ignore her if they call you to the office again tell them you just don't get that well along with her other friends and you just perfer to stay away they can't make you be friends wit her >.< and its for the best cause you guys were her friends longer but you see she's still picking them over you guys so its for the best to just forget her

. · Answer

Rosie will probably start to do drugs and drink like her new friends. She will realize that by choosing to hang out with these people who are making bad decisions will cause her to  so the same, and make her lose all her friends in the process. You don't need to deal with the drama that will come along with being her friend. She will probably come back to you after something bad happens. If you haven't yet, you could try to really explain why you don't want to be friends anymore: her friends are bad news, they are mean to you, they could get you/her in trouble, and will probably end up jobless and poor. I'm sorry you have to deal with this. This happened to a girl I knew. She started doing drugs and lost all of her friends. She hung out with "bad" older kids. She got kicked out of our (private) school, and went to public. She got even worse. Now she is back at school and has lost so many of the people she used to be close friends with. She has awful grades and getting into university will be extremely difficult for her.

So I would just try to explain that you want to be a good friend and help her. The people who she is hanging out with may seem cool, but they will get her into trouble. She probably won't listen, but you should know that you did the right thing and tried to help her. Hanging out with her could cause troubles for you.

Mikayla Loves Bieber ♥ · Answer

I agree with all those people, I think you should follow your heart.
You first should tell her that you wanna week to yourself without her and see how it is.
If you like the feeling keep it that way, if you miss her then return. 
You can always help her by getting to do frequent activites away from the bellvue people. (or where ever they are from ;) 
I think, rosie. needs time to figure out who she wants to be.
You dont wanna be a mean friend and tell her not too have friends, you are just trying to tell her to hang out with the right friends.
For instense if she hangs around druggies she is about 100% proned to do them in the future. One inicent little teenage girl can turn bad, just look at Miley Cyrus.
Hope I helped.
-Nonsense-

simplyliving · Answer

You don't have to tell Rosie to leave you alone, just tell her that her choices are making it impossible for you to continue to be friends with her but if she comes to her senses you guys will be there for her.  This way it is in her court because once this druggy guy uses her and she gets into more and more trouble she will need a true friend again.

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Will you help me with this major FRIENDSHIP ISSUE?

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