partner left me for another woman how to cope?

Divaliscious you can't go down for everything with a strong name like that! Lol.. Don't believe that other woman is brand new, she's been around for sometime - no man operates that way. Coming by was his way of keeping a tab on your whereabouts, buying himself sometime while he did his dirt at the house. Men are creatures of habit, they have simple needs: feed me, sex me, and leave me alone when the games on. Because he's cheated on you more that once, it's time you take a long hard look at yourself to understand what your doing/not doing that's causing him to look elsewhere. Discovering your bad habits, will prepare you for Mr. Right. Most women have no idea that we are often the reason our man cheats the first time. Be happy he's gone, it's time to rediscover yourself!! Enjoy loving you..

Eyn

I am so sorry i know how painful it is.But just tray to be strong and add a little prayer God will make the pain easier and no matter how much you love him just don't go back to him because you gonna find yourself asking this question again on Yahoo and remember girl the is HIV/AIDS out there i know a friend that had a cheating boyfriend but still insisted on trying to change the guy now she found out that she is HIV Positive so do you want that for yourself (no i don't think so) so love yourself and want the best for you and that includes not wanting dirty people in your life the are good men out there that will love and appreciate you and who wouldn't look at other girl but you because you will be more than enough for them.Good luck and GOd bless you!!!!.

I'm sorry to hear what you're going through!

Anyway, in my opinion, you should give him a chance to explain himself about the woman he was with. If you find that you cannot accept his explanation, then I guess the only option left is to leave him and forget him for good. I sincerely hope that you have a close circle of girlfriends whom you can confide in- so if you do, let it all out and have a good cry on their shoulders. If you find yourself 'grieving' about the failed relationship, you have to understand that that's perfectly normal. We have to 'grieve' to get on with our life.

Meantime, take up (or get more involved)in activities that you like doing- preferably activities that involve your close friends and /or communicating with people. You might want to consider doing some charity/social work/volunteer work. Helping people means helping our minds to cope with things and put ourselves in a better perspective that life still has to go on no matter what happens and most importantly, get our mind off the pain.

Btw, try not to maintain a friendly relationship with your ex- I don't think that's advisable. Only when you're ready in the distant future you might want to have any kind of contact with him again.

Also, try not to get yourself in another relationship too soon- it may be a wrong choice at this time when you feel most vulnerable.

Good luck1

Dump him. This is not only not going to get better, it will get much worse. You will cope less well the longer you stay with him. Now you know why he has a 2 year old daughter. And - DOES his job really have him working all those hours? Or is this just some of what he uses for "cover"? I hope you didn't sign a lease with this guy.

You need to move on, This guy obviously does not care about you whatsoever and is just using you for someone to fall back on in case his current relationship with the new chick doesn't work out. If he really loved you and cared about you he would not even think about cheating on you, not once! He is feeding you a line of crap, once he's ready for marriage youll move back? oh god! Does he think you are stupid? I had a boyfriend when i was 16 who did the same garbage to me and i found him later with another girl

Legally he has to pay out half on the house. any woman that shacks up with a married man is stupid! You move back in and throw her out on police order because that is YOUR home and she is an adultress and an interloper! Fight for your rights to YOUR home! It is not her home! Tell the cops you were on vacation and she is not there on your approval as a home owner! Please move back in and clain your rights or else he can sue for abandonment! Get the locks changed and give him a key and tell him that the whore goes and you both work out a financial agreement!

life isnt so grand..I can guarantee you that the bad karma he spewed up between you and him will come forth in this relationship or whichever relationship he so desires to be in. Either way, it is none of your concern. Move on..NEVER speak with him, never contact him, but only to retrieve your things or whatever was left at the old house..he is old news..

Wow, next time dont spend that mich time on any one unless they are willing to marry you and respect you and take care of you!

How did this other woman get there? was she there before is well, or he just picked up a hobo/slag on the day??

he is not worth it....oh just be totally happy that he is not in your life any more.... he is a person you can not trust... and you would never be able to trust him after that. move on and focus on you.. shut the door forever. it is a good way to say goodbye to wasted life, and being with him would just be waste of your life. trust is the base for any relationship ....and this man should not be trusted. :)good luck

You don't need him but as a very good friend of mine says to get over someone is to ge t under some one ellse