My boyfriend isn't supportive when I'm upset.....?

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I've been with my boyfriend for nearly two years, I'm going through a pretty bad time at the moment. My mother has cancer and her operation is today, I could do with some support but my boyfriend is nowhere to be seen. He hasn't even called me. 

I called up to his last night after being in the hospital and all he wanted to do was joke and change the subject anytime I wanted to talk about how I'm feeling. That pretty much shows how little he cares right? My sister has a husband who has been nothing but supportive since my mother was diagnosed. It seems all my boyfriend is worried about is when I can make time for him.........

Ryan · Accepted Answer

I think he deals with your emotions differently and the way he feels is being supportive is by trying to take your mind off the whole ordeal. It is really hard to talk about something your not familiar with but I agree he should just listen sometimes. It is a very touchy subject for everyone involved and it might upset him in a different way. Have you ever just told him that in this time your not in the mood to joke around. and you really need him to be there for you?

Anonymous · Answer

Sorry, but your boyfriend sounds like a total dick.
The whole point of a partner is that they are there to support you when you need it.  The fact he hasnt even called when he knows you're bound to be upset says it all.  
xx

Anonymous · Answer

I'm sorry about your mother! He seems emotionally immature. =[ It might be time to evaluate your relationship with him. You should address the situation with him. Or maybe he does care for you and doesn't know how to be supportive. That happens too.

Anonymous · Answer

perhaps he doesnt know how to be supportive?

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