what should i do now?

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The only girl I've ever had feelings for rejected me last night. We're both freshmen in college, going to schools about a half-hour apart. I've had these feelings for her since my junior year in HS. I finally told her last night. She was out of my league anyway, and she told me that she never thought of me as more than a friend. I knew that she would say that, and it would've been true two years ago too. As you can expect, I'm not dealing with very well. I'd tried hard to move on from that long before I told her how I felt, but it didn't work. Now it feels impossible.

I've always kind of seen myself as someone who isn't really meant to be in a relationship. At the same time, I've had the worst six months that someone could ever have. I have had a rough transition to college, among several other things. I almost feel desperate, but at the same time, I'm not sure what to do about it. Any tips? Thanks.

kasiacz · Accepted Answer

Yes rejection sucks, but you know what, she was honest enough to tell you straight and be thankful for that.

You are going to face it in life more times, we all do, its not just you.  So chin up.

Work on your self esteem, find something you are really good at and become the best at it.

Excel and break out and meet new people.

This is not the end of the world.  You have control over how you deal with things.

You can choose to be a winner or a not.  Do not let anyone take that away from you.

Its good you reach out about your feelings and I encourage you to do so, but whallowing (and I am not being condesending by any means, I suffer from bouts of depression from time to time) is not the way to go.  Pick yourself up and brush yourself off.  You are worth it to many people I am sure.

Relationships are hard work, you can't just be perfect in one go, no one person or relationship is ever that way.  Hell I had a screaming match here yesterday..got it out of my system and moved on.

And that is what you have to do, move on.  Love yourself and know you have something to offer.

Kaye · Answer

Before starting any relationship you should take sometime to just love yourself. You shouldn't need to be with anybody (that girl included) to be happy. Most of my relationship problems came from me not being happy with myself and using the other person to hide that fact. Concentrate on your for a while. Not only will you feel better, but you'll be more attractive to other people too.

xAMBRIELx · Answer

id definitely try to find someone to talk to. a good friend or even a school therapist. its good to vent it and have someone listen. :) im sorry that youre having a rough time :( it seems like being at college would give you the opportunity to branch out to new girls. and maybe thats just taking a little while.

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